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What Kind Of Guys Do Chinese Girls Like?

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Dàjiā hǎo! Huānyíng láidào Mandarin Corner zhī
大家好!欢迎来到Mandarin Corner之
Hi, everyone! Welcome to Mandarin Corner’s

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“shuōshuo nǐ de kànfǎ”.
“说说你的看法”。
Expressing Opinions in Chinese!

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Jīntiān wǒmen yòu lái dào le jiētóu,
今天我们又来到了街头,
Today, we came to the streets again

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lái jìnxíng yī cì suíjī de cǎifǎng.
来进行一次随机的采访。
to interview random people.

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Nàme jīntiān de zhǔtí shì
那么今天的主题是
So, today’s topic is:

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Zhōngguó de nǚháizi xǐhuan shénmeyàng de nánshēng?
中国的女孩子喜欢什么样的男生?
What kind of guys do Chinese girls like?

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Mà xiàmian wǒmen jiù lái tīngting ba!
那下面我们就来听听吧!
Now, let’s have a listen!

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Nàme nǐ xǐhuan shénmeyàng de nánshēng ne?
那么你喜欢什么样的男生呢?
So, what kind of guys do you like?

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Wǒmen shǒuxiān cóng zhǎngxiàng shuō qǐ ba.
我们首先从长相说起吧。
Let’s first start with appearance.

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Jiùshì nǐ xǐhuan zhǎng shénmeyàng de nánshēng?
就是你喜欢长什么样的男生?
How do you like a guy to look?

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Zhǎng de shuài de ya.
长得帅的呀。
Handsome, of course!

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Shénmeyàng cái nénggòu jiào shuài ne?
什么样才能够叫帅呢?
What would be considered “handsome”?

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Bǐrú shuō shēngāo a, tǐzhòng a, yǒu méiyǒu yāoqiú?
比如说身高啊,体重啊,有没有要求?
For example, do you have requirements on height or weight?

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Shēngāo dehuà, zhìshǎo yào yī mǐ qī wǔ yǐshàng ba.
身高的话,至少要一米七五以上吧。
Regarding height, he needs to be at least 1.75 meters.

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Ránhòu ne, tǐzhòng dehuà piān shòu xíng, dànshì yào yǒu jīròu.
然后呢,体重的话偏瘦型,但是要有肌肉。
And regarding weight, (I like him) to be slim, but still have muscles.

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Nǐ xiǎngyào zhǎo gèzi gāo yīdiǎn de,
你想要找个子高一点的,
You want to find a tall guy.

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wèishénme zhège shēngāo huì zhème zhòngyào ne?
为什么这个身高会这么重要呢?
Why is height so important?

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Yīnwèi zhèyàng yīqǐ guàngjiē dehuà,
因为这样一起逛街的话,
Because that way, when we go walking on the street

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shǒu wǎn shǒu, bǐjiào xiǎoniǎoyīrén na, xiǎnde zìjǐ
手挽手,比较小鸟依人呐,显得自己
holding hands, I will appear to be smaller and cuter, like a bird.
Note: “xiǎoniǎoyīrén” is a Chengyu to describe girls that are petite and cute.

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Xiàng zhè wèi gēge zhèyàng.
像这位哥哥这样。
Just like this “older brother”.
Note: She is referring to the cameraman.

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E… nà nǐ néng miáoshù yīxià ma?
呃… 那你能描述一下吗?
Can you describe (the look)?

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Jiùshì huì yī xiàng jìnéng, ránhòu wàibiǎo bǐjiào shuài, bǐjiào cháo.
就是会一项技能,然后外表比较帅,比较潮。
Someone that has skills, looks handsome and fashionable.

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Shénmeyàng de cái shǔyú shuài de, zài nǐ xīnmù zhōng?
什么样的才属于帅的,在你心目中?
In your mind, what would be considered “handsome”?

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Dàgài xiàng tā zhèyàng ba.
大概像他这样吧。
Probably, someone that looks like him.
Note: She is referring again to the cameraman.

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Tǐng huì liáo de!
挺会聊的!
You know how to talk!

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Nà nǐ ne?
那你呢?
What about you?

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Wǒ bǐjiào xǐhuan yōumò yīdiǎn ba, yōumò fēngqù de.
我比较喜欢幽默一点吧,幽默风趣的。
I like somebody that has a sense of humor.

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Duì gèzi yǒu méiyǒu yāoqiú?
对个子有没有要求?
Any requirements on his height?

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Yīnwèi wǒ gèzi bǐjiào gāo, yě xiǎngyào gāo gèzi yīdiǎn de.
因为我个子比较高,也想要高个子一点的。
Since I am pretty tall, I’d like him to be taller.

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Nǐ xiǎng zhǎo duō gāo de?
你想找多高的?
How tall would you want him to be?

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Dàgài yī mǐ bā zuǒyòu ba.
大概一米八左右吧。
Roughly, 1.8 meters.

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Nǐ yě yǒu yī mǐ qī le ba?
你也有一米七了吧?
You are about 1.7, right?

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Duì! Chàbuduō.
对!差不多。
Yes, that’s about right.

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Nà nǐ ne?
那你呢?
What about you?

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Wǒ xiāngduì láishuō, duì yāo…
我相对来说,对要…
For me, relatively…

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Duì shēngāo jiù méi shénme yāoqiú, yī mǐ qī yǐshàng dōu kěyǐ.
对身高就没什么要求,一米七以上都可以。
I don’t have any requirements on height. Above 1.7 is good.

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Shuài yīdiǎn na! Dàdà yǎnjing, gāo gāo bízi, xiǎoxiǎo zuǐba.
帅一点呐!大大眼睛、高高鼻子、小小嘴巴。
Handsome! Big eyes, high-bridge nose and small mouth.

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Shēngāo yǒu méiyǒu yāoqiú ne?
身高有没有要求呢?
Any requirements on height?

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Yī mǐ qī liù yǐshàng ba.
一米七六以上吧。
Above 1.76.

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Nà shēngāo wèishénme huì zhème zhòngyào ne? jiù duì nǐ láishuō
那身高为什么会这么重要呢?就对你来说
Why is height so important to you?

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Wǒ juéde shēngāo huì yǐngxiǎng dào xiàyīdài de yī gè jīyīn.
我觉得身高会影响到下一代的一个基因。
I feel that height will influence the genes of the next generation (my kids).

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Bùyào tài pàng.
不要太胖。
Not too fat.

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Ránhòu bǐjiào gāo yīdiǎndiǎn ba.
然后比较高一点点吧。
And a little taller.

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Yào duō gāo cái jiào gāo?
要多高才叫高?
What would be considered “tall”?

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Yī mǐ qī wǔ ba, yī mǐ qī wǔ yǐshàng.
一米七五吧,一米七五以上。
Above 1.75.

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Tā de chuānyī dǎban ne? Yǒu méiyǒu yāoqiú?
他的穿衣打扮呢?有没有要求?
What about dressing style? Any requirements?

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Xīwàng tā chuān de bǐjiào xiūxián yīdiǎn ba,
希望他穿得比较休闲一点吧,
I hope that he can dress more casually,

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ránhòu kěyǐ yùndòng fēng yīdiǎn, yě kěyǐ
然后可以运动风一点,也可以
and sporty.

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Nà nǐ ne?
那你呢?
What about you?

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Zhuàng yīdiǎn de
壮一点的
(Be physically) strong.

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Jiù bùyào tài shòu
就不要太瘦
Not too skinny.

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Nǐ shì xǐhuan pàng yīdiǎn de?
你是喜欢胖一点的?
You like a guy to be a little fat?

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Xǐhuan wēi pàng de.
喜欢微胖的。
I like a guy that is slightly fat.

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Nà gèzi ne?
那个子呢?
What about height?

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Gèzi, yī mǐ qī wǔ zuǒyòu ba.
个子,一米七五左右吧。
About 1.75.

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Gāo gāo shòu shòu de, ránhòu yǒu fùjī de.
高高瘦瘦的,然后有腹肌的。
Tall, skinny and with core muscles.

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Bǐjiào bái | Duì!
比较白 | 对!
White (skin). | Right!

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Hěn yángguāng
很阳光
Very “sunny”.
Note: “yángguāng” means cheerful disposition and athletic.

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Duì! Zhǐyào yángguāng jiù hǎo
对!只要阳光就好
Right! As long as he is “sunny”.

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Yào pífū bái yīdiǎn de, shì ma?
要皮肤白一点的,是吗?
You want his skin to be a little white, right?

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Qíshí zhǐyào yángguāng jiù xíng le.
其实只要阳光就行了。
Actually, as long as he’s “sunny”, it’s enough.

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Shénmeyàng de lèixíng cái jiào yángguāng ne?
什么样的类型才叫阳光呢?
What type of guy would be considered “sunny”?

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Yīnwèi wǒmen de guānzhòng dōu shì wàiguórén ma,
因为我们的观众都是外国人嘛,
Since our audiences are all foreigners,

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kěnéng tāmen duì “yángguāng” zhège cí bùtài lǐjiě.
可能他们对“阳光”这个词不太理解。
they might not understand the word “sunny”.

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Jiùshì hěn xǐhuan yùndòng.
就是很喜欢运动。
It’s just a guy that likes to do sports.

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O… yùndòng xíng de!
噢… 运动型的!
Oh… sporty type!

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Duì! Ránhòu xìnggé hěn hǎo, hěn kāilǎng.
对!然后性格很好,很开朗。
Right! Also, he needs to have a good personality and be cheerful.

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Jiùshì bǐrú shuō yùdào yīxiē xiǎoshì,
就是比如说遇到一些小事,
For example, when he runs into small problems,

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yě bùhuì shuō hěn jìjiào de nà yīzhǒng.
也不会说很计较的那一种。
he won’t make a fuss about it.

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Jiù dàfang yīdiǎn de? | Duì!
就大方一点的?| 对!
Easy-going? | Right!

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Nà nǐ duì shēngāo yǒu méiyǒu yāoqiú?
那你对身高有没有要求?
Do you have any requirements on height?

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Yào duō gāo ne?
要多高呢?
How tall would you like him to be?

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Kěndìng yào… | Yī mǐ bā
肯定要… | 一米八
He must be… | 1.8 meters.

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Yī mǐ qī wǔ yǐshàng
一米七五以上
Above 1.75 meters.

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Wǒ zuì xǐhuan zhǎng de gāo de.
我最喜欢长得高的。
I like tall guys the most.

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Jiùshì wǒ duì zhǎng de gāo de láishuō, bǐjiào méiyǒu dǐkànglì.
就是我对长得高的来说,比较没有抵抗力。
Regarding tall guys, I cannot resist them!

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Nǐ yǒu duō gāo a?
你有多高啊?
How tall are you?

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Wǒ yǒu yī liù bā diǎn wǔ.
我有168.5 (cm)
I am 168.5 (cm).

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Nǐ xiǎng zhǎo duō gāo de?
你想找多高的?
How tall do you want him to be?

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Wǒ juéde zuìhǎo yī mǐ bā ba.
我觉得最好一米八吧。
I think it would be best if he was 1.8.

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Dāngrán shì yòu gāo yòu shuài de a!
当然是又高又帅的啊!
Of course, a tall and handsome guy!

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Duō gāo ne?
多高呢?
How tall?

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Yī mǐ bā yǐshàng ba.
一米八以上吧。
Above 1.8.

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Nǐ ne?
你呢?
What about you?

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Wǒ? Wǒ yǒu nánpéngyou le.
我?我有男朋友了。
Me? I have a boyfriend.

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Zhǎngxiàng a?
长相啊?
Appearance?

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Wǒ xǐhuan nàzhǒng bǐjiào yángguāng, ránhòu kāilǎng yīdiǎn.
我喜欢那种比较阳光,然后开朗一点。
I like the type that is more “sunny” and cheerful.

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Zhǎngxiàng!
长相!
(She was asking about) appearance!

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Bǐjiào yōumò
比较幽默
More humorous.

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Nà shēngāo yǒu méiyǒu yāoqiú?
那身高有没有要求?
Do you have any requirements on height?

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Shēngāo a? Yuè gāo yuè hǎo ba.
身高啊?越高越好吧。
Height? The taller, the better.

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Liǎng mǐ, sān mǐ ma?
两米,三米吗?
Two, three meters?

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Yě bùshì la. Kěnéng yī mǐ bā zuǒyòu.
也不是啦。可能一米八左右。
That’s not it. Probably, about 1.8.

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Nà nǐ gānggang jiǎng le shuō yào zhǎng de yángguāng yīdiǎn,
那你刚刚讲了说要长得阳光一点,
You said that you wanted a guy that looks more “sunny”.

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Nà nǐ néng bùnéng gěi “yángguāng” zhège cír dìngyì yīxià ne?
那你能不能给“阳光”这个词儿定义一下呢?
Can you define the word “sunny”?

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Bǐjiào ài yùndòng a, dǎ lánqiú,
比较爱运动啊,打篮球,
A guy that likes to do sports, play basketball,

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huòzhě píngshí chuān de bǐjiào yùndòng fēng yīdiǎn.
或者平时穿得比较运动风一点。
or dress sporty.

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Jiù kànqǐlái, zhěng gè rén de qìzhì bǐjiào… nàge…
就看起来,整个人的气质比较… 那个…
Basically, the person’s character is more…

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Nǐ ne?
你呢?
What about you?

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Wǒ a? Qíshí jīběnshang dōu chàbuduō le.
我啊?其实基本上都差不多了。
Me? Actually, (I feel) about the same.

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Jiù zhǎng de gāo gāo de, jiù tǐnghǎo de.
就长得高高的,就挺好的。
Just being tall, it’s pretty good.

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Duì zhǎngxiàng ne, yǒu méiyǒu yāoqiú?
对长相呢,有没有要求?
Regarding appearance, any requirements?

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Méiyǒu
没有
No.

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Shēngāo ne?
身高呢?
What about height?

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Yī mǐ qī wǔ dào yī mǐ bā ba.
一米七五到一米八吧。
1.75 to 1.8 meters.

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Wǒ shì bǐjiào xǐhuan nàzhǒng yángguāng, jījí,
我是比较喜欢那种阳光,积极,
I like the type that is “sunny”, positive

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háiyǒu jiùshì ài yùndòng de nánshēng.
还有就是爱运动的男生。
and likes to do sports.

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Nǐ ne?
你呢?
What about you?

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Wǒ yě shì bǐjiào… gēn tā de chàbuduō.
我也是比较… 跟她的差不多。
I also… About the same as her.

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Nà zài wàixíng fāngmiàn ne?
那在外型方面呢?
What about appearance?

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Bǐrú shuō shēngāo a, tǐzhòng a, háiyǒu wǔguān a?
比如说身高啊,体重啊,还有五官啊?
For example, height, weight and facial features?

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Wǒ juéde yīdìngyào bǐ wǒ gāo!
我觉得一定要比我高!
I feel that he must be taller than me!

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Jiùshì xīwàng yī mǐ bā zuǒyòu.
就是希望一米八左右。
I hope that he is about 1.8 meters.

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En, nǐ ne?
嗯,你呢?
What about you?

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Wǒ juéde shēngāo yě bù suàn shuō yāoqiú yǒu duō gāo,
我觉得身高也不算说要求有多高,
My requirement on height isn’t that high.

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jiù chàbuduō… gēn wǒ chàbuduō yě xíng, gāo yīdiǎndiǎn,
就差不多… 跟我差不多也行,高一点点,
It will be okay if he’s as tall as me or a little taller.

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dànshì bùnéng bǐ wǒ ǎi ba.
但是不能比我矮吧。
But he can’t be shorter than me.

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Tǐzhòng ne? Néng bùnéng jiēshòu pàng yīdiǎn de, háishi?
体重呢?能不能接受胖一点的,还是?
What about weight? Can you accept a guy that is a little fat?

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Pàng yīdiǎn, dàgài shì zěnyàng pàng fǎ?
胖一点,大概是怎样胖法?
A little fat? Roughly, how fat?

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Jiù nǐ néng jiēshòu shénme fànwéi nèi de pàng?
就你能接受什么范围内的胖?
What will be the range you can accept?

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Jiù wēi pàng yīdiǎn, hái kěyǐ jiēshòu.
就微胖一点,还可以接受。
If it’s slightly fat, it’s acceptable.

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Wǒ bù jiēshòu tài pàng de.
我不接受太胖的。
I can’t accept a guy that is very fat.

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Nà jiēshòu wēi pàng, hái kěyǐ o?
那接受微胖,还可以哦?
So, slightly fat is okay, right?

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Zuìhǎo háishi chàbuduō ba.
最好还是差不多吧。
It’s best if he’s (not too fat).

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Tǐzhòng biāozhǔn yīdiǎn shì zuìhǎo de.
体重标准一点是最好的。
It’s best that he has a standard weight (for his height).

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Jiù zǒngguī yījùhuà, yánzhí hěn zhòngyào.
就总归一句话,颜值很重要。
In any case, the look is very important.

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Nàme guānyú nánshēng de xìnggé,
那么关于男生的性格,
So, regarding a guy’s personality,

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nǐmen xǐhuan shénmeyàng de?
你们喜欢什么样的?
what kind do you like?

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Jiùshì kāilǎng yīdiǎn ba, ránhòu xīwàng…
就是开朗一点吧,然后希望…
A little cheerful and I hope…

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Jiùshì xīwàng tā píngcháng néng duō xiào a shénmede…
就是希望他平常能多笑啊什么的…
I just hope that he can smile more and things like that.

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Jiù tǐnghǎo de.
就挺好的。
That will be good.

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Xǐhuan xiào a? Jiùshì bǐjiào kāixīn yīdiǎn de nàzhǒng?
喜欢笑啊?就是比较开心一点的那种?
A guy that likes to smile? You mean, a happy type?

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Háiyǒu qítā de ma?
还有其它的吗?
Anything else?

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Méi le.
没了。
That’s it.

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Nà nǐ ne?
那你呢?
What about you?

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Bǐjiào huópo, tǐtiē yīdiǎn de.
比较活泼,体贴一点的。
More lively and considerate.

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Nǎxiē xíngwéi shàng kěyǐ tǐxiàn chū zhège nánshēng tǐtiē ne?
哪些行为上可以体现出这个男生体贴呢?
What behaviors will show that a guy is considerate?

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Jiùshì bùyào tài shénjīngdàtiáo.
就是不要太神经大条。
Basically, someone who is not so thick-skinned.
Note: “shénjīngdàtiáo” means thick-skinned and insensitive.

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Shénme jiào shénjīngdàtiáo?
什么叫神经大条?
What do you mean by thick-skinned?

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Jiùshì nǐ shēngqì, tā dōu gǎnjué bùdào.
就是你生气,他都感觉不到。
(It means that) when you get angry, he can’t even notice it.

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O… jiùshì yào shāowēi mǐngǎn yīdiǎn de nánshēng?
噢… 就是要稍微敏感一点的男生?
Oh… (You want) a guy that is more sensitive?

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Dàn yě bùyào tài mǐngǎn!
但也不要太敏感!
But not too sensitive!

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Yōumò de
幽默的
Humorous.

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Shénmeyàng cái jiào yōumò ne?
什么样才叫幽默呢?
What would be considered humorous?

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Jiùshì suíshí dōu kěyǐ jiǎng yīxiē xiàohuà,
就是随时都可以讲一些笑话,
Basically, he can tell a joke any time

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kěyǐ bǎ nǚshēng dòuxiào de.
可以把女生逗笑的。
and can make a girl laugh.

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Nǐ yǒu méiyǒu jiāo guò bǐjiào yōumò de nánpéngyou ne?
你有没有交过比较幽默的男朋友呢?
Have you had a humorous boyfriend?

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Méiyǒu jiāo guò nánpéngyou,
没有交过男朋友,
I never had a (humorous) boyfriend,

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dànshì wǒ de dìdi hái mán yōumò de.
但是我的弟弟还蛮幽默的。
but my younger brother is pretty humorous.

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Bùyào tài nuǎn.
不要太暖。
Not too “warm”.
Note: “nuǎnnán” is an internet slang which literally means “warm guy”. It defines a guy who is caring and considerate. So, “nuǎn” alone means caring and considerate.

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Duì! Jiùshì… wǒ xīwàng duō miàn yīdiǎn ba.
对!就是… 我希望多面一点吧。
Right. I would want him to be more well-rounded.

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Jiù duì wǒ nuǎn yīdiǎn jiù hǎo le, duì qítā rén bùyào…
就对我暖一点就好了,对其他人不要…
Just be “warm” to me and to other people, not…

153
Duì nǐ hǎo?
对你好?
Be nice to you?

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Duì! Bùyào shuō duì suǒyǒu de nǚshēng dōu tèbié hǎo de nàzhǒng,
对!不要说对所有的女生都特别好的那种,
Right! (But) not nice to every girl.

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bǐjiào hàipà zhèzhǒng xìnggé de.
比较害怕这种性格的。
I fear that type of personality.

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Jiùshì bù xīwàng nàzhǒng huāhuāgōngzǐ de lèixíng?
就是不希望那种花花公子的类型?
You don’t want him to be the playboy type?

157
Nàme nǐ juéde shénmeyàng de…
那么你觉得什么样的…
So, in your opinion, what type…

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Yīnwèi “nuǎn” ma,
因为“暖”嘛,
Since “warm”

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zhège cí shì zuìjìn cái chūlái de cí, shìbùshì?
这个词是最近才出来的词,是不是?
is a word that has recently come out, right?

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Nǐ néng bùnéng jiěshì yīxià “nuǎn” shì shénme yìsi?
你能不能解释一下“暖”是什么意思?
Can you explain the meaning of “warm”?

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Duì wǒ bǐjiào guānxīn, tiēxīn, xìxīn.
对我比较关心,贴心,细心。
Being caring and considerate to me.

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Nǐ juéde yǒu shénmeyàng de xíngwéi
你觉得有什么样的行为
What kind of behaviors

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duìyú nǐ láishuō shǔyú nuǎn de?
对于你来说属于暖的?
do you consider to be “warm”?

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Bǐrú, xiànzài tiānqì hěn rè a,
比如,现在天气很热啊,
For example, it’s really hot now,

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ránhòu kěnéng tā xiān dàojiā dehuà
然后可能他先到家的话
if he gets home first,

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huì kāi hǎo wòshì lǐ de kōngtiáo.
会开好卧室里的空调。
he might turn on the air conditioner in the bedroom for me.

167
Zhèyàng wǒ huíqu jiù hěn…
这样我回去就很…
This way, when I get back, it will be very…

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Nuǎn dào le! | Duì duì!
暖到了!| 对对!
I felt “warm” (by your description). | Right!

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Nǐ ne? | Wǒ dehuà…
你呢?| 我的话…
What about you? | Regarding me…

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Nǐ shì bùyào tài nuǎn de ma?
你是不要太暖的吗?
You don’t want him to be too “warm”?

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Tā yào nuǎn de!
她要暖的!
She wants a “warm” (guy)!

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Wǒ yào nuǎn, dànshì bùyào duì biéren nuǎn.
我要暖,但是不要对别人暖。
I want him to be “warm”, but not to other people.

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Wǒ shì xiǎng dōu nuǎn yīxià,
我是想都暖一下,
I want him to be “warm” (to everyone).

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tā jiùshì bǐjiào tǐtiē de nàzhǒng jiù hǎo le.
他就是比较体贴的那种就好了。
He just need to be considerate, that will be good.

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Bǐjiào tǐtiē a? | Duì…
比较体贴啊?| 对…
More considerate? | Right!

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Nà nǐ néng bùnéng jǔ gè lìzi ne?
那你能不能举个例子呢?
Can you give an example?

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Jǔ gè lìzi a?
举个例子啊?
An example?

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Qíshí gēn tā nàzhǒng qíngkuàng chàbuduō ba.
其实跟她那种情况差不多吧。
In fact, it’s almost the same situation as (she described).

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Jiùshì… jiù fāngfāngmiànmiàn dōu kěyǐ gùjí dào de nà yīzhǒng.
就是… 就方方面面都可以顾及到的那一种。
Just a guy that can consider many aspects.

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Jiùshì guānxīn nǐ, bǐjiào xìxīn de. | Duì…
就是关心你,比较细心的。| 对…
Basically, a guy that is caring and attentive to you. | Right…

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Yǒu méiyǒu yāoqiú duìfāng chéngshú a,
有没有要求对方成熟啊,
Would you require him to be mature

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huòzhě yǒu nánrén wèi zhèzhǒng?
或者有男人味这种?
or manly?

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Yào a, yào chéngshú.
要啊,要成熟。
Yes, I want him to be mature.

184
Xīnlǐ chéngshú
心理成熟
Mature in mind,

185
Wàizài dào wúsuǒwèi.
外在倒无所谓。
(but) I don’t care too much about his appearance.

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Wǒ xǐhuan bǐjiào kāilǎng de, jiùshì kěyǐ… hěn néng liáo de.
我喜欢比较开朗的,就是可以… 很能聊的。
I like somebody that is more cheerful and talkative.

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Bù xiàng nàxiē hěn chénmèn de, wǒ bù xǐhuan nàxiē.
不像那些很沉闷的,我不喜欢那些。
Not like those who are very withdrawn, which I don’t like.

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Bù xǐhuan hàixiū de?
不喜欢害羞的?
You don’t like shy guys?

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Háishi hěn yángguāng ba.
还是很阳光吧。
Again, “sunny” (guys).

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Bǐjiào dàfang
比较大方
Easy-going.

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Wǒ xǐhuan Man yīdiǎn.
我喜欢Man一点。
I like a guy that is more manly.

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Xǐhuan yǒu nánrén wèi yīdiǎn? Hěn Man, shì ba?
喜欢有男人味一点?很Man,是吧?
You like manly man, right?

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Duì! Huì bāng nǐ a, yǒuyīxiē shìqing a, huòzhě shì…
对!会帮你啊,有一些事情啊,或者是…
Right! A guy that will help me with some things or…

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Jiùshì bùhuì kǎolǜ yòuzhì yīdiǎn de nánshēng?
就是不会考虑幼稚一点的男生?
So, you won’t consider a childish guy?

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Bù xǐhuan yòuzhì de!
不喜欢幼稚的!
I don’t like childish guys!

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Nǐ juéde shénmeyàng de nánshēng huì… jiù suànshì yòuzhì de ne?
你觉得什么样的男生会… 就算是幼稚的呢?
In your opinion, what kind of guys are childish?

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Jiùshì méishì jiù xǐhuan liáo nǐ yīxià.
就是没事就喜欢撩你一下。
When he’s not busy, he likes to tease you.

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Xiǎng nǐ… ràng nǐ dǎ tā, nà yīzhǒng jiùshì…
想你… 让你打他,那一种就是…
He will make you want to hit him. That kind is…

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Nàzhǒng fēicháng yòuzhì!
那种非常幼稚!
That kind is very childish!

200
Ránhòu sīxiǎng hěn yòuzhì,
然后思想很幼稚,
Also, a guy that thinks childishly.

201
bǐrú shuō yǒuxiērén fēnshǒu, gēn nǚpéngyou
比如说有些人分手,跟女朋友
For example, some guys that break up with their girlfriends

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ránhòu jiù yīzhí fán zhe tā de nǚpéngyou, zhèzhǒng…
然后就一直烦着他的女朋友,这种…
might keep bothering them. This kind…

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wǒ jiù juéde hěn yòuzhì.
我就觉得很幼稚。
I think that this kind is very childish.

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Jiùshì nánshēng yīnggāi xìnggé yào dàfang yīdiǎn.
就是男生应该性格要大方一点。
Guys should be more easy-going.

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Bǐjiào gǎoxiào yīdiǎn de.
比较搞笑一点的。
A guy that is a little funny.

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Nénggòu dòu nǐ xiào de, shì ba?
能够逗你笑的,是吧?
Somebody that can make you laugh?

207
Nǐ ne?
你呢?
What about you?

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Jiù ǒu’ěr huì yōumò yīdiǎn lo,
就偶尔会幽默一点咯,
Just occasionally humorous.

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dànshì jiù bǐjiào xǐhuan huì rènzhēn yīdiǎn de nánháizi.
但是就比较喜欢会认真一点的男孩子。
But I like guys that are more serious.

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Nǐ zhǐ de rènzhēn, shì duì gǎnqíng rènzhēn
你指的认真,是对感情认真
When you say “serious”, do you mean that he’s serious in relationship

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háishi duì gōngzuò rènzhēn?
还是对工作认真?
or in work?

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Jiùshì duì rènhé shìqing dōu shì bǐjiào rènzhēn.
就是对任何事情都是比较认真。
Just being serious on everything.

213
Duì wǒ hǎo de.
对我好的。
Being nice to me.

214
Zuì zhòngyào shì píqi yào hǎo,
最重要是脾气要好,
Most importantly, he needs to have a good temper

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duì rén yào hǎo, dàirén yǒu lǐ.
对人要好,待人有礼。
and be nice and courteous to people.

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Duì a! Yào xiàoshùn fùmǔ, zhèyàng
对啊!要孝顺父母,这样
Right! Being filial to his parents.

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Xiànzài ne, Zhōngguó yǒu hěn duō nánshēng
现在呢,中国有很多男生
Nowadays, many Chinese guys

218
dōu yǒu chōuyān zhège xíguàn,
都有抽烟这个习惯,
have the habit of smoking.

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nǐmen nénggòu jiēshòu chōuyān de nánshēng ma?
你们能够接受抽烟的男生吗?
Can you accept a guy that smokes?

220
Zuìhǎo bùyào!
最好不要!
It’s best that he doesn’t!

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Duì! Wǒ bù xǐhuan chōuyān de.
对!我不喜欢抽烟的。
Right! I don’t like guys that smoke.

222
Wèishénme?
为什么?
Why?

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Wǒ juéde duì zìjǐ shēntǐ yě bùhǎo,
我觉得对自己身体也不好,
I think that it’s bad for their health

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érqiě duì zìjǐ shēnbiān de rén yě bùhǎo a.
而且对自己身边的人也不好啊。
and people around them.

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Xī èrshǒuyān yě shì bùhǎo de.
吸二手烟也是不好的。
Also, second-hand smoke is not good.

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Bùnéng jiēshòu
不能接受
No, I can’t accept it.

227
Wèishénme?
为什么?
Why?

228
Wǒ juéde chōuyān ba,
我觉得抽烟吧,
I think that regarding smoking,

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jiùshì nánshēng zìjǐ huì juéde zìjǐ hěn shuài,
就是男生自己会觉得自己很帅,
guys feel that they’re very cool.

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kěshì dāng wǒmen zài tā shēnbiān dehuà,
可是当我们在他身边的话,
But when we’re around them,

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wǒmen yě huì hūxī dào nàge bùhǎo de kōngqì a,
我们也会呼吸到那个不好的空气啊,
we will also inhale the bad air

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ránhòu… tā zìjǐ yě huì shēntǐ bùhǎo. suǒyǐ…
然后… 他自己也会身体不好。所以…
and it’s also not good for their own health. So…

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Suǒyǐ, rúguǒ yī gè nánshēng xīyān dehuà,
所以,如果一个男生吸烟的话,
So, if a guy smokes,

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nǐ shì juéduì bùhuì kǎolǜ de?
你是绝对不会考虑的?
you will absolutely not consider him?

235
Wǒ jiēshòu bùliǎo!
我接受不了!
I can’t accept it.

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Wǒ bùnéng.
我不能。
I can’t.

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Wǒ yě bù xǐhuan.
我也不喜欢。
I also don’t like it.

238
Yīnwèi wǒ jiālǐ rén méiyǒu rén chōuyān, wǒ bù xǐhuan zhè…
因为我家里人没有人抽烟,我不喜欢这…
Because in my family, nobody smokes and I don’t like…

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Wǒ shì bǐjiào páichì, wǒ bàba huì chōuyān,
我是比较排斥,我爸爸会抽烟,
I am against it. My father smokes

240
ránhòu wǒ yě huì ǒu’ěr shuō tā,
然后我也会偶尔说他,
and I sometimes try to talk him out of it,

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dànshì yībān shì tā bù tīng de.
但是一般是他不听的。
but generally, he doesn’t listen.

242
Dànshì wǒ gèrén shì fēicháng jièyì de.
但是我个人是非常介意的。
But personally, I mind it very much.

243
Jiùshì rúguǒ nánshēng chōuyān dehuà,
就是如果男生抽烟的话,
So if a guy smokes,

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nǐ shì bùhuì kǎolǜ de?
你是不会考虑的?
you won’t consider him?

245
Yīnggāi bùhuì ba, wǒ juéde
应该不会吧,我觉得
Probably not, I think.

246
Zuìhǎo bùyào ba. Jiù bùtài xiǎngyào chōuyān de.
最好不要吧。就不太想要抽烟的。
It’s best not. I don’t want be with a guy that smokes.

247
Wèishénme ne?
为什么呢?
Why?

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Yīnwèi bùtài jiànkāng a.
因为不太健康啊。
Because it’s not very healthy.

249
érqiě hěn duō chōuyān de rén jiù huì zhíjiē zài lù shàng chōu ma,
而且很多抽烟的人就会直接在路上抽嘛,
Also, many people that smoke will just do it on the street

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jiù huì yǐngxiǎng dào biéren na.
就会影响到别人哪。
and it affects other people.

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Duì, jiù bùshì hěn xǐhuan.
对,就不是很喜欢。
Right. I don’t like it.

252
Wǒ juéde zhè kàn chǎnghé ba.
我觉得这看场合吧。
I think that it depends on the occasion.

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Duì, kěnéng tā xūyào hé péngyou yīqǐ,
对,可能他需要和朋友一起,
Right. He might be with his friends

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kěnéng xūyào chōu, nà zhège kěyǐ lǐjiě.
可能需要抽,那这个可以理解。
and he needs to smoke which is understandable.

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Dànshì jiù zài jiā lǐmiàn zuìhǎo háishi bùyào?
但是就在家里面最好还是不要?
But at home, it’s best that he doesn’t?

256
Bùyào
不要
Yes.

257
Bùnéng!
不能!
No, I can’t!

258
Wèishénme?
为什么?
Why?

259
Chōuyān kěyǐ, bùyào zài wǒ miànqián chōu,
抽烟可以,不要在我面前抽,
He could smoke, but not in front of me,

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wǒ hái néng jiēshòu.
我还能接受。
then it will be okay.

261
Dàn bùyào zài wǒ miànqián chōu, zhèyàng
但不要在我面前抽,这样
Just don’t smoke in front of me.

262
Dàn tā shēnshang huì yǒu yān wèi, zhège nǐ huì jièyì ma?
但他身上会有烟味,这个你会介意吗?
But he will have the smell of smoke on him, will you mind?

263
Bù jièyì
不介意
No.

264
Jiù zuìhǎo bù chōu ba.
就最好不抽吧。
It’s best that he doesn’t.

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Rúguǒ tā yào chōu dehuà, wǒ xīwàng tā kěyǐ wèi wǒ jiè diào.
如果他要抽的话,我希望他可以为我戒掉。
If he smokes, I hope he can quit for me.

266
Dànshì rúguǒ bù jiè ne?
但是如果不戒呢?
But what if he doesn’t?

267
Fēnshǒu!
分手!
Break up!

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Nà kěnéng yě bùzhìyú fēnshǒu la.
那可能也不至于分手啦。
Probably, it’s not so bad that it should lead to a break-up.

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Jiù huì píngshí bǐjiào duō de tídiǎn tā,
就会平时比较多地提点他,
I will just remind him

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ràng tā shǎo chōu yīdiǎn.
让他少抽一点。
to smoke less.

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Nǐ ne?
你呢?
What about you?

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Wǒ a? Qíshí wǒ huì bǐjiào qīngxiàngyú
我啊?其实我会比较倾向于
Me? I actually prefer to

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zhǎo bù chōuyān de nánshēng.
找不抽烟的男生。
find a guy that doesn’t smoke.

274
Wǒ běnshēn bùtài xǐhuan chōuyān de rén.
我本身不太喜欢抽烟的人。
I don’t like people that smoke.

275
Suǒyǐ ne rúguǒ tā yǒu zhège xíguàn dehuà,
所以呢如果他有这个习惯的话,
So, if he has this habit,

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wǒ kěnéng jiù bùhuì kǎolǜ.
我可能就不会考虑。
I probably won’t consider him.

277
Wǒ jiù kěyǐ jiēshòu.
我就可以接受。
I can accept it.

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Dànshì jiùshì bùshì shuō bǎ chōuyān dàngchéng zìjǐ àihào,
但是就是不是说把抽烟当成自己爱好,
But just don’t make smoking a hobby

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jiù bìyào de shíhou chōu.
就必要的时候抽。
and only do it when it’s necessary.

280
Shénmeshíhou cái suànshì bìyào ne?
什么时候才算是必要呢?
When would it be considered necessary?

281
Jiùshì bǐrú shuō yìngchou a zhīlèi de.
就是比如说应酬啊之类的。
For example, in social engagements and things like that.

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Wǒ bù fǎnduì.
我不反对。
I don’t object to it.

283
Wèishénme?
为什么?
Why?

284
Yīnwèi xiànzài zhège shì yī gè shèhuì de yī gè yǐngxiǎng,
因为现在这个是一个社会的一个影响,
Because it’s influenced by society

285
yī gè xíguàn, wǒ juéde…
一个习惯,我觉得…
and it’s a habit, I feel…

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Kěndìng xiànzài hěn duō nánshēng yě bùkěnéng chōuyān,
肯定现在很多男生也不可能抽烟,
For sure, many guys don’t smoke,

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dànshì yǒuxiē yě huì chōuyān de,
但是有些也会抽烟的,
but some smoke.

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tā zhǐshì yī gè guòchéng ma, wǒ juéde…
它只是一个过程嘛,我觉得…
This is a process, I think…

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yīnwèi kěnéng yǒu xiǎohái le, jiù bùyīdìng le,
因为可能有小孩了,就不一定了,
Maybe when he has kids,

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kěnéng bǎ tā jiè diào le.
可能把它戒掉了。
he might quit.

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Nǐ juéde tā kěnéng jiè de diào ma?
你觉得他可能戒得掉吗?
Do you think it’s possible for him to quit?

292
Huì de, yīnggāi shì
会的,应该是
Yes, probably.

293
Kàn yīxià tā duì xiǎohái de yī gè àihù chéngdù shì qù dào nǎli lo.
看一下他对小孩的一个爱护程度是去到哪里咯。
It will depend how much he cares about his kids.

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Wǒ nánpéngyou shì chōuyān de.
我男朋友是抽烟的。
My boyfriend smokes.

295
Dànshì tā shì gēn wǒ zàiyīqǐ de shíhou, tā bùhuì chōuyān.
但是他是跟我在一起的时候,他不会抽烟。
But when he’s with me, he won’t smoke.

296
Huòzhě shì tā… jiùshì wǒmen zàiyīqǐ,
或者是他… 就是我们在一起,
Or when we are together

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tā xiǎng… rúguǒ tā xiǎng chōuyān dehuà,
他想… 如果他想抽烟的话,
and he wants to smoke,

298
tā huì pǎo dào hěn yuǎn de dìfang, jiù yuǎnlí wǒ de dìfang qù.
他会跑到很远的地方,就远离我的地方去。
he will go to a place that is far away from me.

299
Dàn jīběnshang tā shì gēn wǒ zàiyīqǐ dehuà,
但基本上他是跟我在一起的话,
But, basically if he’s with me,

300
wǒ yībān dōu bǎ tā de yān mòshōu, fàng zài wǒ zhèlǐ,
我一般都把他的烟没收,放在我这里,
I usually take his cigarettes and keep them with me.

301
ránhòu jiù méiyǒu jīhuì chōuyān.
然后就没有机会抽烟。
Then, he won’t have the opportunity to smoke.

302
Nǐ néng jiēshòu chōuyān de nánshēng ma?
你能接受抽烟的男生吗?
Can you accept a guy that smokes?

303
Néng, dànshì bùyào guòliàng.
能,但是不要过量。
Yes, but not too much.

304
Shénmeyàng cái jiào guòliàng?
什么样才叫过量?
What is “too much”?

305
Jiùshì yī gè xīngqī liǎng sān zhī ba.
就是一个星期两三支吧。
Just two or three cigarettes a week.

306
Yī gè xīngqī liǎng sān zhī?! | Duì a!
一个星期两三支?!| 对啊!
Two or three cigarettes a week? | Right!

307
Zhè hěn shǎo āi!
这很少唉!
That’s really not a lot!

308
Nǐmen néng jiēshòu chōuyān de nánshēng ma?
你们能接受抽烟的男生吗?
Can you accept a guy that smokes?

309
Jiēshòu bùliǎo!
接受不了!
I can’t.

310
Wǒ yuánběn shì bù xǐhuan chōuyān de nánshēng,
我原本是不喜欢抽烟的男生,
I originally didn’t like guys that smoke,

311
dànshì rúguǒ tā chōuyān dehuà,
但是如果他抽烟的话,
but if he smokes…

312
wǒ xiànzài wǒ nánpéngyou yě shì chōuyān de,
我现在我男朋友也是抽烟的,
My boyfriend also smokes

313
mànmàn de, jiù yě néng jiēshòu le ba qíshí
慢慢地,就也能接受了吧其实
and slowly I can accept it, actually.

314
Dànshì rúguǒ tā bù chōu dehuà shì gèng hǎo de.
但是如果他不抽的话是更好的。
But if he doesn’t, it would be better.

315
Nǐ huìbùhuì… nǐ yǒu méiyǒu yāoqiú guò tā jièyān?
你会不会… 你有没有要求过他戒烟?
Have you asked him to quit smoking?

316
Céngjīng yǒu guò, dànshì…
曾经有过,但是…
I have. But…

317
Shībài le ma?
失败了吗?
You failed?

318
Xiàoguǒ bùshì hěn míngxiǎn!
效果不是很明显!
The outcome wasn’t very obvious!

319
Nǐ huìbùhuì dānxīn èrshǒuyān duì nǐ de yǐngxiǎng?
你会不会担心二手烟对你的影响?
Don’t you worry about the effects that second-hand smoke brings to you?

320
Bǐrú shuō nǐ píngcháng tā zài xī de shíhou,
比如说你平常他在吸的时候,
For example, when he smokes,

321
nǐ zài pángbiān, nǐ huìbùhuì shuō tā?
你在旁边,你会不会说他?
and you’re around him, will you tell him not to?

322
Tā jǐnliàng shì wǒ zài de shíhou,
他尽量是我在的时候,
When I am around,

323
tā jǐnliàng shì bùhuì chōuyān de.
他尽量是不会抽烟的。
he tries not to smoke.

324
Nǐ néng jiēshòu bǐ nǐ dà de háishi bǐ nǐ xiǎo de nánpéngyou?
你能接受比你大的还是比你小的男朋友?
Can you accept a boyfriend that is older or younger than you?

325
Dōu kěyǐ jiēshòu a.
都可以接受啊。
I can accept both.

326
Nà rúguǒ dà shí suì ne?
那如果大十岁呢?
What if he’s ten years older?

327
Kěyǐ jiēshòu de.
可以接受的。
I can accept.

328
Nà xiǎo wǔ suì ne?
那小五岁呢?
What about five years younger?

329
Xiǎo gè liǎng sān suì háishi méiwèntí,
小个两三岁还是没问题,
Two to three years younger won’t be a problem,

330
wǔ suì jiù yǒudiǎn tài xiǎo le.
五岁就有点太小了。
but five years is a little too young.

331
Dōu kěyǐ
都可以
Both are okay.

332
Dà duōshao, xiǎo duōshao ne?
大多少,小多少呢?
How much older or younger?

333
Rúguǒ dà dehuà, wǔ suì yǐnèi
如果大的话,五岁以内
If he’s older, within five years.

334
Dōu shì… wǒ juéde sān suì yǐnèi,
都是… 我觉得三岁以内,
I think that within three years,

335
dà sān suì huòzhě xiǎo sān suì.
大三岁或者小三岁。
three years older or younger is okay.

336
Shí suì yǐnèi ba
十岁以内吧
Within ten years.

337
Dà shí suì háishi xiǎo shí suì?
大十岁还是小十岁?
Ten years older or younger?

338
Dōu shì
都是
Both.

339
Xiǎo shí suì yě kěyǐ?
小十岁也可以?
Ten years younger is also okay?

340
Xiǎo dehuà, wǔ suì ba
小的话,五岁吧
If it’s younger, five years.

341
Wǔ suì, wǔ nián zhīnèi
五岁,五年之内
Within five years.

342
Zuìhǎo shì bǐ wǒ dà de.
最好是比我大的。
It’s best that he is older than me.

343
Kěyǐ wèn yīxià nǐ niánlíng ma?
可以问一下你年龄吗?
May I ask about your age?

344
Wǒ jīnnián shíbā.
我今年十八。
I am 18 now.

345
Hǎo niánqīng o!
好年轻哦!
So young!

346
Nǐ juéde bǐ nǐ dà duōshao, nǐ néng jiēshòu?
你觉得比你大多少,你能接受?
How much older can you accept?

347
Wǔ suì yǐnèi ba.
五岁以内吧。
Within five years.

348
Dà de
大的
Older.

349
Dà duōshao néng jiēshòu?
大多少能接受?
How much older can you accept?

350
Dà wǔ suì yǐnèi ba.
大五岁以内吧。
Within five years.

351
Bǐ nǐ xiǎo de, nǐ shì wánquán bùnéng jiēshòu ma?
比你小的,你是完全不能接受吗?
You absolutely can’t accept a guy that is younger than you?

352
Duì a!
对啊!
Right!

353
Yī liǎng suì, sān sì suì, kěyǐ ba?
一两岁,三四岁,可以吧?
One to two, or three to four years, okay?

354
Duì! Xiǎo de ne, rúguǒ xiǎo dehuà, jiù yī liǎng suì
对!小的呢,如果小的话,就一两岁
Right! If he’s younger, one or two years.

355
Ránhòu rúguǒ dà dehuà, juéde shí suì zhīnèi dōu kěyǐ.
然后如果大的话,觉得十岁之内都可以。
If he’s older, I think within ten years is good.

356
Nàme nǐ zhǎo nánpéngyou shì yǐ jiéhūn wéi mùdì de ma?
那么你找男朋友是以结婚为目的的吗?
If you look for a boyfriend, will marriage be the goal?

357
Nà kěndìng de!
那肯定的!
That’s for sure!

358
Zhè shì Zhōngguórén de nǚxìng de biāozhǔn ma.
这是中国人的女性的标准嘛。
This is the standard for Chinese women.

359
Shì a
是啊
Right.

360
Nǐ ne?
你呢?
What about you?

361
Dāngrán shì yǐ jiéhūn wéi mùdì de la!
当然是以结婚为目的的啦!
Of course, it will be based on the goal of marriage!

362
Xiànzài hái bù ba
现在还不吧
Not for now.

363
Xiànzài hái tài yáoyuǎn.
现在还太遥远。
It’s still far away (to think about marriage).

364
Hái méi xiǎng zhège wèntí.
还没想这个问题。
I haven’t thought about this question.

365
Hái méi xiǎng, nǐ ne?
还没想,你呢?
You haven’t thought about it. What about you?

366
Yǐqián shì, xiànzài bùshì
以前是,现在不是
Before, yes. Now, no.

367
é? Wèishénme gǎibiàn le ne?
额?为什么改变了呢?
Eh? Why did you change?

368
Bùyīdìng yīxiàzi jiù zhǎodào ma
不一定一下子就找到嘛
You can’t find (the one) just like that.

369
Duì! Jiùshì… nǐ yào yǐ jiéhūn wéi mùdì,
对!就是… 你要以结婚为目的,
Right! If marriage is the goal,

370
ránhòu shǒuxiān yào xǐhuan, ránhòu yě yào héshì ba,
然后首先要喜欢,然后也要合适吧,
you have to like him and he needs to be appropriate.

371
bùrán móhé de tài lèi le.
不然磨合得太累了。
Otherwise, it will be very tiring trying to get along.

372
Ránhòu hái yào kǎolǜ gèzhǒng wèntí ba, wǒ juéde
然后还要考虑各种问题吧,我觉得
Also, I feel that you need to think about other problems.

373
Bǐjiào máfan!
比较麻烦!
It’s quite a hassle!

374
Méiyǒu xiǎng nàme yuǎn.
没有想那么远。
I haven’t thought that far ahead.

375
Duì, rúguǒ yùdào shìhé dehuà, kěyǐ kǎolǜ jiéhūn.
对,如果遇到适合的话,可以考虑结婚。
Right. If I find the appropriate one, I will consider marriage.

376
Rúguǒ méiyǒu yùdào dehuà, huì jìxù zhǎo xiàqù.
如果没有遇到的话,会继续找下去。
If I don’t find one, I will keep searching.

377
Jìrán nǐ shì yǐ jiéhūn wéi mùdì de,
既然你是以结婚为目的的,
Since it’s based on the goal of marriage,

378
nà nǐ juéde duìfāng de jīngjì nénglì shìfǒu zhòngyào?
那你觉得对方的经济能力是否重要?
is his financial status important?

379
Yě hěn zhòngyào a
也很重要啊
It’s also important.

380
Jiùshì nǐ néng bùnéng gěi yī gè dàgài de shùzì,
就是你能不能给一个大概的数字,
Can you give me a rough number (for his income)?

381
bǐrú shuō nánpéngyou de gōngzī yào duō gāo nǐ cái nénggòu jiēshòu?
比如说男朋友的工资要多高你才能够接受?
For example, how much should your boyfriend make?

382
Zhìshǎo rénmínbì yī gè yuè yào yī wàn duō zuǒyòu cái kěyǐ.
至少人民币一个月要一万多左右才可以。
At least, over 10,000 yuan a month.

383
Nǐ juéde hǎo zhǎo ma?
你觉得好找吗?
In your opinion, will it be easy to find (a guy like this)?

384
Hái xíng ba, xiànzài yīnggāi
还行吧,现在应该
Nowadays, it should be okay.

385
Nà duìfāng yǒu fáng yǒu chē, zhèxiē nǐ huì yāoqiú ma?
那对方有房有车,这些你会要求吗?
So, will you require him to have a house and a car?

386
Chēzi bùtài yāoqiú, fángzi dehuà,
车子不太要求,房子的话,
I won’t request a car, but regarding a house,

387
rúguǒ yào jiéhūn, kěyǐ liǎng gè rén yīqǐ mǎi.
如果要结婚,可以两个人一起买。
if we were to get married, we could buy it together.

388
Jīngjì nénglì yīnggāi… jiùshì zěnme shuō ne?
经济能力应该… 就是怎么说呢?
Regarding financial status, … how should I say this?

389
Tā néng yǎnghuo tā zìjǐ jiù xíng le ba.
他能养活他自己就行了吧。
As long as he can support himself, it will be enough.

390
Nǐ juéde tā… nǐ juéde zài xiànzài zhège shèhuì,
你觉得他… 你觉得在现在这个社会,
In your opinion, in the current society,

391
tā yào zhèng dàgài yī gè yuè duōshao qián
他要挣大概一个月多少钱
how much should he roughly make

392
cái suàn néng fúhé zhège biāozhǔn ne?
才算能符合这个标准呢?
in order to be considered up to standard?

393
Yào kàn tā de jùtǐ kāixiāo a, nàxiē
要看他的具体开销啊,那些
It will need to depend on his (daily) expenses and so on.

394
Jiùshì jīngjì jiù méiyǒu yī gè biāozhǔn ba,
就是经济就没有一个标准吧,
Basically, there isn’t a standard for financial status.

395
jiùshì zhǔyào tā děi yǒu shàngjìnxīn ba.
就是主要他得有上进心吧。
It’s more important that he has a desire for improvement.

396
Tā xiànzài rúguǒ zànshí hái bùxíng dehuà,
他现在如果暂时还不行的话,
If at the moment, he can’t (meet the financial standard),

397
nàge jīngjì qíngkuàng bùtài hǎo dehuà,
那个经济情况不太好的话,
his financial situation isn’t very good,

398
dànshì tā zhǐyào yǒu nàge shàngjìnxīn a,
但是他只要有那个上进心啊,
but as long as he has the desire for improvement,

399
zài gōngzuò shàngmian yǒu yīxiē zìjǐ de xiǎngfǎ a,
在工作上面有一些自己的想法啊,
has his own thinking at work,

400
ránhòu néng cháozhe nàge mùbiāo qù nǔlì a, zhèyàngzi
然后能朝着那个目标去努力啊,这样子
and can work hard towards his goals, (it will be okay).

401
Wǒ juéde zhèyàng mànmàn de jiù kěyǐ…
我觉得这样慢慢地就可以…
I think that this way, slowly, it will…

402
Mànmàn de jiù kěyǐ mǎifáng le?
慢慢地就可以买房了?
Slowly, he can buy a house?

403
Duì! Mànmàn de… jiù qiánlì gǔ nàzhǒng yě shì kěyǐ de.
对!慢慢地… 就潜力股那种也是可以的。
Right! Slowly… It will be okay if his potential is promising.

404
Bǐrú shuō tā de gōngzī duōshao…
比如说他的工资多少…
For example, his salary should be how much…

405
Yīdìngyào shàngjìn, zuì zhòngyào de shì
一定要上进,最重要的是
The most important thing is that he has the desire to improve.

406
Nǐ gāng kāishǐ shǎo bùyàojǐn,
你刚开始少不要紧,
It won’t matter if he makes little at the beginning.

407
dànshì nǐ bùyào yīzhí dōu shì zhège zhuàngtài.
但是你不要一直都是这个状态。
But he can’t always stay like this.

408
Jiù xīwàng tā jiù kěyǐ dānfù qǐ wǒmen xiànzài shēnghuó suǒ xūyào de
就希望他就可以担负起我们现在生活所需要的
I just hope that he can take the responsibility for our living cost,

409
shénme zūfáng a,
什么租房啊,
for example, the rent

410
huòzhě shì píngshí de shēnghuófèi zhīlèi de, jiù kěyǐ le.
或者是平时的生活费之类的,就可以了。
and other everyday expenses. That will be enough.

411
Nǎge wèntí?
哪个问题?
Which question (were you asking)?

412
Jiùshì nánpéngyou de jīngjì nénglì shìfǒu zhòngyào?
就是男朋友的经济能力是否重要?
Is your boyfriend’s financial status important?

413
Zhège dehuà, wǒ juéde wǒ bùhuì tèbié zàiyì.
这个的话,我觉得我不会特别在意。
Regarding this, I don’t think I care that much.

414
Jiùshì… yīnwèi xiàng wǒmen gāng bìyè,
就是… 因为像我们刚毕业,
Since we just graduated,

415
kěndìng bùkěnéng yī chūlái jiù tèbié gāo gōngzī ma,
肯定不可能一出来就特别高工资嘛,
it’s impossible that we can get a high salary right away.

416
jiùshì zuì zhòngyào háishi yǒu shàngjìnxīn lo.
就是最重要还是有上进心咯。
So, it’s more important that he has the desire to improve.

417
Ránhòu gōngzī nà fāngmiàn dehuà, jiù dàjiā yīqǐ nǔlì ba.
然后工资那方面的话,就大家一起努力吧。
And regarding salary, we can work on it together.

418
Wǒ bùhuì tèbié zàiyì zhè fāngmiàn de lo.
我不会特别在意这方面的咯。
I won’t particularly care about this that much.

419
Duì wǒ láishuō, wǒ shì juéde yǒu fáng yǒu chē bùshì…
对我来说,我是觉得有房有车不是…
To me, I feel that having a car and a house is not…

420
yě bùshì shuō hěn zhòngyào.
也不是说很重要。
It’s not that important.

421
Dàjiā kěyǐ liǎng gè rén yīqǐ nǔlì, ránhòu yīqǐ zhuànqián.
大家可以两个人一起努力,然后一起赚钱。
We both can work hard together to make money.

422
Duì, dànshì zhè shì tàidu wèntí,
对,但是这是态度问题,
Right. But this is a matter of attitudes.

423
yīdìngyào jījí xiàngshàng.
一定要积极向上。
He must take the initiative to become better.

424
Nàme nǐ jiéhūn hòu huì gēn nǐ de pópo zhù zài yīqǐ ma?
那么你结婚后会跟你的婆婆住在一起吗?
So, after you get married, will you live with your mother-in-law?

425
Bùhuì fǎnduì
不会反对
I won’t be against it.

426
Bùhuì fǎnduì? Wèishénme?
不会反对?为什么?
You won’t be against it? Why?

427
Xiān kàn yīxià dàoshíhòu…
先看一下到时候…
I need to see when it happens…

428
Wǒ yě bù zhīdào duìfāng de yāoqiú ma, rúguǒ duìfāng…
我也不知道对方的要求嘛,如果对方…
I don’t know what his requirement is (on this).

429
Tā kěnéng shì dúzǐ a,
他可能是独子啊,
He might be the only son

430
nà kěndìng shì gēn māma zhù zài yīqǐ la.
那肯定是跟妈妈住在一起啦。
and he surely needs to live with his mother.

431
Duì bùduì? Zhège kàn qíngkuàng lo.
对不对?这个看情况咯。
Right? So it all depends.

432
Qíshí wǒ gèng xǐhuan liǎng gè rén yīqǐ shēnghuó.
其实我更喜欢两个人一起生活。
Actually, I prefer just the two of us living together.

433
Bùguò yě bùhuì tài jièyì.
不过也不会太介意。
But I won’t mind too much.

434
Nàme nǐ huì yuànyì gēn pópo zhù zài yīqǐ ma?
那么你会愿意跟婆婆住在一起吗?
So, will you be willing to live with your mother-in-law?

435
Bù yuànyì
不愿意
No.

436
Jiǎrú nǐ de nánpéngyou tā jiānchí yào gēn tā de māma zhù zài yīqǐ,
假如你的男朋友他坚持要跟他的妈妈住在一起,
If your boyfriend insists on living with his mother,

437
nǐ huì zěnme zuò ne?
你会怎么做呢?
what will you do?

438
Wǒ huì shuìfú tā, háishi chūlái zhù.
我会说服他,还是出来住。
I will persuade him that we need move out.

439
Dànshì zài Zhōngguó hěn duō jié le hūn de fūfù
但是在中国很多结了婚的夫妇
But in China, many married couples

440
dōu shì gēn pópo zhù zài yīqǐ de,
都是跟婆婆住在一起的,
live with the mother-in-law,

441
yīnwèi tā kěyǐ dài xiǎohái ma,
因为她可以带小孩嘛,
because she can look after the kids.

442
nàme nǐ wèishénme shì nàme bù yuànyì gēn pópo zhù zài yīqǐ ne?
那么你为什么是那么不愿意跟婆婆住在一起呢?
So, why aren’t you willing to live with your mother-in-law?

443
Yīnwèi wǒ zìjǐ shì yòu shī,
因为我自己是幼师,
Because I am a kindergarten teacher

444
wǒ yuànyì zìjǐ dài xiǎoháizi.
我愿意自己带小孩子。
and I am willing to take care of my own kids.

445
Rúguǒ tāmen zìjǐ xiǎng… yuànyì gēn wǒmen zhù dehuà,
如果他们自己想… 愿意跟我们住的话,
If they (parents-in-law) are willing to live with us,

446
wǒmen yě shì kěyǐ de.
我们也是可以的。
we are okay with it.

447
Kěyǐ jiēshòu de? Nǐ ne?
可以接受的?你呢?
You can accept it? What about you?

448
Kěyǐ jiēshòu a
可以接受啊
Yes, I can.

449
Bù huì!
不会!
No!

450
Wǒ wúlùn wǒ yǒu méiyǒu qián,
我无论我有没有钱,
Whether I have money or not,

451
wǒ nìngyuàn zū fángzi yě bùhuì gēn tā zhù zài yīqǐ.
我宁愿租房子也不会跟她住在一起。
I rather rent an apartment than live with her.

452
Xiāngjiàn hǎo, tóng chǔ nán na! Zhēn de!
相见好,同处难哪!真的!
It’s easy to meet, but hard to live together! Really!

453
Zuìhǎo bùyào ba!
最好不要吧!
It’s best not to!

454
Wèishénme?
为什么?
Why?

455
Yīnwèi háishi xīwàng kěyǐ liǎng gè rén dúchǔ yīdiǎn.
因为还是希望可以两个人独处一点。
Because I would hope that the two of us can live together alone.

456
Rúguǒ shì hé jiāzhǎng zài yīqǐ dehuà,
如果是和家长在一起的话,
If we live with his parents,

457
kěndìng huì yǒu hěn duō máodùn a.
肯定会有很多矛盾啊。
there will surely be a lot of conflicts.

458
Yǒudiǎn yuēshù
有点约束
It will be a little restricting.

459
Rúguǒ xiāngchǔ de hǎo dehuà, kěndìng shì yuànyì de.
如果相处得好的话,肯定是愿意的。
If we get along well, I will definitely be willing to (do it).

460
Bùguò gèng duō de shì xīwàng liǎng gè rén yīqǐ
不过更多的是希望两个人一起
But I would prefer that just the two of us live together.

461
Guò èr rén shìjiè? | Duì duì!
过二人世界?| 对对!
Live in a world with just the two of you? | Right!

462
Wǒ yě shì chàbuduō zhège yàngzi de.
我也是差不多这个样子的。
I feel about the same.

463
Jiǎrú nǐ zhǎo dào le yī gè nánpéngyou,
假如你找到了一个男朋友,
If you find a boyfriend,

464
dànshì nǐ de fùmǔ ne jiùshì bù jiēshòu,
但是你的父母呢就是不接受,
but your parents don’t accept him,

465
juéde yǒu nǎxiē quēdiǎn, tāmen juéde bù rènkě,
觉得有哪些缺点,他们觉得不认可,
because they feel he has some shortcomings, and they don’t approve,

466
nàme zhège shíhou nǐ huì zěnme zuò ne?
那么这个时候你会怎么做呢?
what will you do?

467
Qíshí wǒ de fùmǔ hái mán kāimíng,
其实我的父母还蛮开明,
Actually, my parents are pretty open-minded,

468
jiùshì tāmen huì suí wǒ zìjǐ de xīnyì.
就是他们会随我自己的心意。
they will let me follow my own mind.

469
Xiān kàn nánfāng zěnme biǎoxiàn ba.
先看男方怎么表现吧。
I need to see how the guy performs first.

470
Yīnwèi rúguǒ tā zhēn de xǐhuan nǐ,
因为如果他真的喜欢你,
Because if he really likes you,

471
tā jiù huì yòng tā de xíngdòng qù dǎdòng nǐ de fùmǔ.
他就会用他的行动去打动你的父母。
he will try to convince your parents with his actions.

472
Wǒ juéde rúguǒ wǒ mā bù tóngyì, wǒ yīnggāi bùhuì xiǎng…
我觉得如果我妈不同意,我应该不会想…
I think that if my mother disapproves, I probably won’t want to…

473
Bùhuì xiǎng jìxù. Duì!
不会想继续。对!
I won’t want to continue.

474
Wǒ xiān nǔlì de xúnqiú wǒ mā de yìjiàn ba
我先努力地寻求我妈的意见吧
I will first try to seek my mother’s opinion.

475
Shuìfú tāmen?
说服他们?
To persuade them?

476
Duì! Shuìfú tā
对!说服她
Right, to persuade her.

477
Rúguǒ zhēn de bùxíng dehuà, nà yě méiyǒu bànfǎ.
如果真的不行的话,那也没有办法。
If it still doesn’t work, then there’s nothing I can do.

478
Yīnwèi wǒ juéde wǒ mā de yìjiàn
因为我觉得我妈的意见
Because I feel that my mother’s opinion

479
kěnéng huì zhòngyào yīdiǎn.
可能会重要一点。
might be more important.

480
Jiùshì nǐ… jiǎrú nǐ fùmǔ shízài bù tóngyì dehuà,
就是你… 假如你父母实在不同意的话,
So, if you’re parents really don’t agree,

481
nǐmen huì fàngqì, shì ma? | Duì!
你们会放弃,是吗?| 对!
you will give up? | Right!

482
Nǐ ne?
你呢?
What about you?

483
Wǒ yě shì.
我也是。
Me too.

484
Wǒ xiān shuìfú tāmen.
我先说服他们。
I will first try to persuade them.

485
Rúguǒ bùnéng shuìfú ne?
如果不能说服呢?
What if you can’t convince them?

486
Rúguǒ zhēn de bùxíng, nà jiù suàn le ba.
如果真的不行,那就算了吧。
If it still doesn’t work, then forget it.

487
Wǒ juéde zhè shì yào hěn hǎo de qù gēn tāmen gōutōng, yīnwèi…
我觉得这是要很好地去跟他们沟通,因为…
I think that we need to talk to them about this because…

488
ránhòu wǒ juéde zuòwéi jiāzhǎng,
然后我觉得作为家长,
Also, I feel that as parents,

489
tāmen kěndìng shì xīwàng érnǚ men dōu nénggòu xìngfú de.
他们肯定是希望儿女们都能够幸福的。
they surely hope that their children will be happy.

490
Suǒyǐ tāmen kěndìng huì zhàn zài nǐ de jiǎodù,
所以他们肯定会站在你的角度,
So for sure, they will consider things

491
ránhòu qù wèi nǐ zháoxiǎng.
然后去为你着想。
from (the children’s) point of view.

492
Wǒ juéde zhè yīxiē yīnggāi shì kěyǐ gōutōng de,
我觉得这一些应该是可以沟通的,
I think that these things can be negotiated.

493
bùshì duōdà de wèntí.
不是多大的问题。
It’s not a big problem.

494
Yīnwèi jiāzhǎng men yě shì guòláirén ma,
因为家长们也是过来人嘛,
Because parents have a lot of life experience,

495
ránhòu hěn duō dōngxi dehuà,
然后很多东西的话,
and in many things,

496
tāmen dǒng de bǐ wǒmen duō, dōu shì wèi wǒmen kǎolǜ de.
他们懂得比我们多,都是为我们考虑的。
they know more and will consider the situation for us.

497
Kàn yīxià máodùn huòzhě shì wèntí néng bùnéng jiějué.
看一下矛盾或者是问题能不能解决。
I will have to see if the problem can be worked out.

498
Rúguǒ bùnéng ne?
如果不能呢?
What if it can’t?

499
Rúguǒ bùnéng dehuà, yǒukěnéng huì zūnzhòng fùmǔ.
如果不能的话,有可能会尊重父母。
If it can’t, I might choose to respect my parents.

500
Jiù huì fēnshǒu a? | Duì!
就会分手啊?| 对!
You will break up with him? | Right!

501
Nǐ ne?
你呢?
What about you?

502
Wǒ dehuà, kàn wǒmen liǎng gè zěnme xiāngchǔ ba,
我的话,看我们两个怎么相处吧,
For me, I will see how the two of us get along.

503
jiùshì… dāngrán fùmǔ kěndìng tā de yìjiàn yě shì yǒu tā yīdìng de dàoli.
就是… 当然父母肯定他的意见也是有他一定的道理。
Sure, parents must have their reasons for their objections.

504
Nà jiù kàn tā shì shénme tàidu lo.
那就看他是什么态度咯。
That will depend on (the boyfriend’s) attitude.

505
Ránhòu rúguǒ shì máodùn háishi zhēn de huì yuèláiyuè dà dehuà,
然后如果是矛盾还是真的会越来越大的话,
If the conflict continues to become bigger,

506
nà kěnéng jiù huì kǎolǜ fēnkāi ba.
那可能就会考虑分开吧。
I might consider separating from him.

507
Hǎo! Jīntiān de shìpín jiù dào zhèlǐ jiéshù.
好!今天的视频就到这里结束。
Okay! That’s it for today.

508
Nǚháizi xǐhuan shénmeyàng de nánshēng
女孩子喜欢什么样的男生
What kind of guys do girls like

509
kěnéng huì yīnwèi měi gè guójiā de wénhuà,
可能会因为每个国家的文化,
might differ from country to country

510
háiyǒu shěnměi biāozhǔn de bùtóng ér yǒusuǒ qūbié.
还有审美标准的不同而有所区别。
due to the differences in culture and beauty standards.

511
Nàme zài nǐmen de guójiā,
那么在你们的国家,
So in your country,

512
nǚháizi xǐhuan shénmeyàng de nánshēng ne?
女孩子喜欢什么样的男生呢?
what kind of guys do girls like?

513
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欢迎在下面留言讨论!
Leave us a comment below!

514
Rúguǒ nǐ xǐhuan zhège shìpín dehuà,
如果你喜欢这个视频的话,
If you like this video,

515
Nà jiù qǐng gěi tā diǎn gè zàn,
那就请给它点个赞,
please give it a “like”,

516
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并与你的好友们分享。
and share it with your friends.

517
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这个视频的PDF文件
This video’s free PDF

518
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可在mandarincorner.org上免费下载。
can be downloaded at mandarincorner.org.

519
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如果你喜欢我们频道和网站上的内容,
If you like the content on our channel and website,

520
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并想帮助我们继续提供这类内容,
and you’d like to help us continue providing it,

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那么请考虑在Patreon上支持我们
please consider supporting us on Patreon

522
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或使用PayPal进行一次性捐赠。
or making a one-time donation through PayPal.

523
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最后,请还没有订阅的人订阅我们的频道
Finally, if you haven’t subscribed to our channel, please subscribe!

524
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我们下期再见!
See you next time!

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