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Dàjiā hǎo!
大家好！
Hi, everyone!
Nà a ~ jīntiān
那啊～ 今天
Today…
Zhè biān shì wǒ jiā fùjìn de yī zuò shān
这边是我家附近的一座山
We are at a mountain close to my home
A ~ jiào yáng tái shān
啊～ 叫羊台山
called ” YangTai Mountain”.
Xiànzài wǒ xiǎng qù, a, pá xiàshān, bìngqiě
现在我想去，啊，爬下山，并且
Today I would like to hike up this mountain and …
A ~děng yīxià huì gēn dàjiā tǎolùn yīxià
啊～等一下会跟大家讨论一下
and in a while, discuss with you
Guānyú yīgè bǐjiào sīrén de wèntí, zài zhōngguó bǐjiào
关于一个比较私人的问题，在中国比较
a very private and personal subject that in China
Bǐjiào chángjiàn de yīgè xiànxiàng, jiùshì： shèngnǚ
比较常见的一个现象，就是：剩女
is a very big topic: Leftover Women.
Kěnéng yǒu de rén méiyǒu tīngshuō guò, zhège dāncí
可能有的人没有听说过，这个单词
Maybe some of you have not heard of this term.
Dànshì zài zhōngguó qíshí shì fēicháng chángjiàn
但是在中国其实是非常常见
But in China, Leftover Women is a very common term.
Bìngqiě, duìyú xiàng wǒ zhège niánlíng de nǚ háizi lái shuō
并且，对于像我这个年龄的女孩子来说
In addition, for girls my age
Shì yī dà, shì yīgè hěn dà de yīgè huàtí
是一大，是一个很大的一个话题
It is a very common topic of discussion.
Suǒyǐ děng yīxià wǒ huì zài lùshàng, huì gēn dàjiā tǎolùn yīxià
所以等一下我会在路上，会跟大家讨论一下
So, I will discuss this with you on the way up to the mountain
Huòzhě gēn dàjiā jiǎng yīxià wǒ xīnlǐ de xiǎngfǎ
或者跟大家讲一下我心里的想法
and also speak from my heart about my feelings on this topic.
Nà xiànzài wǒmen yào qù páshānle
那现在我们要去爬山了
Okay, let’s climb this mountain!
Nà biān yǒu yīxiē jiànzhù
那边有一些建筑
There are some buildings over there.
Bǐjiào gǔlǎo, (xiàng) yǒu diǎn xiàng gǔdài de shíhòu de yīxiē jiànzhù
比较古老，（像）有点像古代的时候的一些建筑
That looks rather old, like the style you would see in ancient time.
Tǐng zhōngguó fēng de
挺中国风的
They have a very pronounced Chinese style.
Āi ~ bùguò zài shēnzhèn de gōngyuán lǐ, yībān wénzi bǐjiào duō!
唉～ 不过在深圳的公园里，一般蚊子比较多！
aya~ but in Shenzhen parks , there are usually a lot of mosquitoes!
Yǎo dé wǒ quánshēn dōu shì hóng diǎndiǎn!
咬得我全身都是红点点！
They are bitting me all over!
Bùguò méiguānxì ~
不过没关系～
However, I don’t mind too much.
Jīntiān rén bǐjiào shǎo, wǒ xiǎng yīnggāi shì, yīn wéi jīntiān shì zhōuyī
今天人比较少，我想应该是，因为今天是周一
Today there are very few people here, I think it’s because it’s Monday.
Suǒyǐ, rén bǐjiào shǎo, bùguò wǒ juédé fēicháng hǎo
所以，人比较少，不过我觉得非常好
So, there are not too many people here, however it feels great.
Píngcháng wǒ lái de shíhòu rén dōu tèbié duō
平常我来的时候人都特别多
Usually when I come here, it is very crowded
Suǒyǐ, xiāngduì lái shuō dehuà, jīntiān kàn qǐlái juédé tèbié de měi!
所以，相对来说的话，今天看起来觉得特别地美！
So, today looks and feels very beautiful!
Tèbié dì zhènhàn!
特别地震撼！
The park’s beauty feels very stunning!
Nà xiànzài wǒ yào xuǎnzé de shì cóng lìngwài yī tiáo lùshàng qù,
那现在我要选择的是从另外一条路上去，
Today, I will select a different route up the mountain.
Zhè tiáo lù wǒ cónglái méiyǒu zǒuguò
这条路我从来没有走过
I have never hiked this trail before.
Suǒyǐ jīntiān wǒ xiǎng chángshì yīxià, bìngqiě ~
所以今天我想尝试一下，并且～
So today I want to try this new trail and…
Yě xīwàng néng zài yīgè bǐjiào ānjìng de dìfāng,
也希望能在一个比较安静的地方，
and hope that I can find a quiet place
Nénggòu shuō chū wǒ duì shèngnǚ de yīxiē kànfǎ,
能够说出我对剩女的一些看法，
where I can give you my views on the Leftover Women topic
hái yǒu wǒ zìjǐ de xīnshēng.
还有我自己的心声。
as well as my deep feelings on this matter.
Shì bù shì yǒu de jǐngsè ne,
是不是有的景色呢，
isn’t it true that there is some scenery
zhǐyǒu zài rén shǎo de shíhòu cáinéng gǎnshòu de dào?
只有在人少的时候才能感受地到？
that you can only appreciate when there are not too many people around.
Wǒ ~ zhè shì dì yī cì wǒ juédé
我 ～ 这个第一次我觉得
This is the first time I feel that
yáng táishān shì zhème de měi, zhème de zhuàngguān!
羊台山是这么地美，这么地壮观！
Yang Tai Mountain is so beautiful, so spectacular!
Érqiě, è ~ zài wǒ kàn lái dehuà,
而且，呃～ 在我看来的话，
Also, the way I see it
Wǒ juédé zhěnggè yánsè, wǒ gǎnjué shēn chǔ xiānjìng de gǎnjué!
我觉得整个颜色，我感觉身处仙境的感觉！
all the colors make me feel I am in the middle of a wonderland!
Kàn dào nà biānle ma?
看到那边了吗？
Did you see that?
Dàjiā huì cóng zhè shàngmiàn cǎiqǔ yīxiē shuǐ
大家会从这上面采取一些水
People take water from here
Ránhòu xiàshān de shíhòu, bǎ tā guàn chéng shuǐ
然后下山的时候，把它灌成水
then they take it down the mountain, bottle it
A ~ yǒu kěnéng shì ná qù mài, yě yǒu kěnéng shì zìjǐ hē
啊～ 有可能是拿去卖，也有可能是自己喝
and either sell it or drink it themselves.
A ~shuōmíng shānshàng de shuǐ háishì fēicháng chúnjìng de!
啊～说明山上的水还是非常纯净的！
It is said that mountain water is especially pure.
A ~xiūxí yīxià, āiyō mā ya ~
啊～休息一下，哎哟妈呀～
Let’s rest a little bit!
（感冒中。。。）
( Sorry, I got a cold… )
Āiyō ~
哎哟～
Oh!
Nà jīntiān wǒ yào gēn dàjiā, a ~
那今天我要跟大家，啊～
So today I would like to talk to you
Shuō yīxià wǒ de kànfǎ, duìyú
说一下我的看法，对于
about my opinions
Shèngnǚ, bù zhīdào dàjiā yǒu méi yǒu tīngguò
剩女，不知道大家有没有听过
on Leftover Women. But I am not sure if everyone has heard this term.
Shèngnǚ zài zhōngguó qíshí fēicháng chángjiàn
剩女在中国其实非常常见
Leftover Women in China is a common phenomena.
A ~ yībān xiàng, xiàng wǒ shì cóng
啊～ 一般像，像我是从
Generally speaking, in a place like where I came from,
Cóng zhōngguó de, xiāngcūn lái de
从中国的，乡村来的
I am from the countryside,
Suǒyǐ yībān zài, dàgài shì xiàng wǒ zhège niánlíng yǐjīng shì shèngnǚle!
所以一般在，大概是像我这个年龄已经是剩女了！
unmarried women my age are already considered Leftover Women!
Nà zài zhōngguó dehuà, qíshí yǒu hěnduō de shèngnǚ
那在中国的话，其实有很多的剩女
In China, there are actually a lot of Leftover Women.
Dàjiā juédé a ~
大家觉得啊～
People in the countryside think
zhèxiē, nǚ háizi jiù yīnggāi zài 20 suì zuǒyòu, yīnggāi jiù yào jiéhūn
这些，女孩子就应该在20岁左右，应该就要结婚
that girls should get married when they are around 20
Shēng xiǎohái
生小孩
and have children.
Dàgài shì zhèyàng zi.
大概是这样子。
This is the way it usually is down in the countryside.
Nà rúguǒ zài 20 suì yǐshàng doū méiyǒu jiéhūn de,
那如果在20岁以上都没有结婚的，
So if a girl is over 20 years old and still not married
bìngqiě méiyǒu duìxiàng de
并且没有对象的
and has no boyfriend
Jiù huì bèi chēng wèi shèngnǚ
就会被称为剩女
then she will be considered a Leftover woman.
Wǒ juédé fēicháng, a ~ fēicháng kěbēi ba!
我觉得非常，啊～ 非常可悲吧！
I feel this situation is really quite sad.
Wèishéme nǚ de méiyǒu jiéhūn jiù huì bèi chēng wèi shèngnǚ?
为什么女的没有结婚就会被称为剩女？
Why, if a woman is unmarried, she is considered “leftover”?
Nà nán de ne? Nán de yě shì tóngyàng de.
那男的呢？男的也是同样的。
What about men? They face the same situation.
A ~ nà zài lǎojiā dehuà, qíshí wǒ gǎnjué dào fēicháng yǒu yālì
啊～ 那在老家的话，其实我感觉到非常有压力
I feel tremendous pressure regarding marriage when I am back in my hometown.
Yǒu shíhòu wǒ shènzhì, shènzhì dōu bùxiǎng huí jiā
有时候我甚至，甚至都不想回家
There are times I don’t even want to return back home.
Yīnwèi juédé, dàjiā wéirào, wéirào wǒ de yīgè huàtí yǒngyuǎn dōu shì
因为觉得，大家围绕，围绕我的一个话题永远都是
Because I feel the only topic around me is always
Jiéhūn! Xiāngqīn! Jiéhūn! Xiāngqīn!
结婚！相亲！结婚！相亲！
Marriage! Get a Matchmaker! Marriage! Get a Matchmaker!
Kěshì wǒ bìng bù juédé wǒ dàole zhège niánlíng
可是我并不觉得我到了这个年龄
But I really don’t think I have reached the age
Wǒ bìng bù juédé wǒ dàole yīnggāi jiéhūn de niánlíng
我并不觉得我到了应该结婚的年龄
that I need to get married.
A ~
啊～
Nà wǒ shì yǒu yīgè mèimei,
那我是有一个 妹妹，
I have a young sister,
Wǒ de mèimei dàgài shì bǐ wǒ xiǎo sì suì
我的妹妹大概是比我小四岁
My sister is roughly 4 years younger than me
Yě jiùshì 20 suì
也就是20岁
around 20 years old.
Tā zài 20 suì de shíhòu jiù yǐjīng dìnghūnle!
她在20岁的时候就已经订婚了！
She immediately got engaged when she was 20 years old.
Nà dào jīnnián dehuà, tā yǐjīng shì, mǎshàng yào dāng māmāle.
那到今年的话，她已经是，马上要当妈妈了。
This year, she will soon become a mother.
Qíshí kěyǐ xiǎngxiàng dédào wǒ huí jiā de yālì yǒu duōme de dà.
其实可以想像得到我回家的压力有多么的大。
So you can imagine how big is the pressure on me whenever I return back home.
Wǒ jìdé, ń ~(cóng) zìcóng wǒ 20 suì kāishǐ
我记得，嗯～（从）自从我20岁开始
I remember I have had this pressure since I was 20
Měi yī nián (huí) huí lǎojiā de shíhòu, doū huì
每一年（回）回老家的时候，都会
Every year when I return home
Bù hǎoyìsi, yǒudiǎn gǎnmào
不好意思，有点感冒
Excuse me, I got a cold.
A ~doū huì, doū huì bèi qīnqī huòzhě shì péngyǒu
啊～都会，都会被亲戚或者是朋友
Every year, both relatives and friends
(Wéirào) wéizhe wǒ liáo,“yào bùyào gěi nǐ jièshào duìxiàng”
(围绕）围着我聊，“要不要给你介绍对象”
will be all around me saying ” do you want me to introduce you to someone?”
Nà ~yǒu shíhòu shì méiyǒu bànfǎ qù jùjué de, yīnwèi
那～有时候是没有办法去拒绝的，因为
Sometimes I can’t refuse their offers, because
A ~ jiā lǐmiàn rén jiùshì zhèyàng zi
啊～ 家里面人就是这样子
This is the way people are
Ránhòu, yǒu shíhòu
然后，有时候
And, sometimes
Kěnéng wǒ huì, (bèi) bèi bī wúnài, nà hǎo ba!
可能我会，（被）被逼无奈，那好吧！
I am just forced to accept their offers, so I just say ” okay”!
Nà jiù dài tā guòlái jiàn yīxià ba
那就带他过来见一下吧
“Just bring him over so we can have a look.”
Nà yībān shì, hā! Xiāngqīn hěn gǎoxiào!
那一般是，哈！相亲很搞笑！
Usually, the matchmaker’s method seems very funny to me.
Yībān shuō dào xiāngqīn dehuà, a ~
一般说到相亲的话，啊～
When the matchmaker arrives
Zài wǒmen xiāngxià de shíhòu, xiāngqīn shì zhèyàng zi de
在我们乡下的时候，相亲是这样子的
in the countryside, matchmakers are like this,
A ~nán háizi huì bèi dài dào nǚfāng jiālǐ
啊～男孩子会被带到女方家里
The boy will be brought over to the girl’s home.
Ránhòu liǎng gèrén kěnéng huì liáo yī liáo, nà liáo dé chàbùduōle
然后两个人可能会聊一聊，那聊得差不多了
Then the two will possibly chat a little bit
Mǎshàng jiù huì, jiù huì kāishǐ dìnghūn
马上就会，就会开始订婚
immediately afterwards, the two will become engaged!
Nà dìnghūn, yībānguòle yī nián zhīhòu jiù kāishǐ jiéhūn
那订婚，一般过了一年之后就开始结婚
Roughly a year after the engagement, they will get married.
Duìyú wǒ lái shuō, wǒ juédé, a! Tài kěxiàole!
对于我来说，我觉得，啊！ 太可笑了！
I feel the way this courtship is handled, it’s really ridiculous!
Zhè shì hūnyīn ma? Wǒ juédé shì
这是婚姻吗？我觉得是
This is marriage?! I feel it’s
Shuō dé nántīng yīdiǎn a, wǒ juédé shì jiāoyì!
说得难听一点啊，我觉得是交易！
honestly speaking, I feel it’s like a business deal!
Shì jīnqián de jiāoyì, yīnwèi tèbié shì zài xiāngxià
是金钱的交易，因为特别是在乡下
It’s a deal based on money, especially in the countryside.
Jiéhūn shì, nánfāng shì yào gěi nǚfāng yī dà bǐ de qián de!
结婚是，男方是要给女方一大笔的钱的！
Before getting married, they boy’s family have to give the girl a big sum of money.
Suǒyǐ, wǒ juédé shì méiyǒu yìyì de, yīnwèi
所以，我觉得是没有意义的，因为
I think it’s meaningless, because
Yīnwèi, a ~ yīnwèi nǚfāng
因为，啊～ 因为女方
because the girl’s family
Wǒ juédé bìng bùshì yīnwèi qián cái gēn nǐ jiéhūn
我觉得并不是因为钱才跟你结婚
would probably not agree to marriage if it was not for the money.
Rúguǒ méiyǒu yīdiǎn gǎnqíng jīchǔ, wǒ yàgēn dōu bù xǐhuān zhège rén
如果没有一点感情基础，我压根都不喜欢这个人
As for me, if feelings is not the foundation for the relationship, I simply will not like the man.
Wǒ wèishéme yào gēn tā jiéhūn?!
我为什么要跟他结婚？！
Why would I marry him?!
Wǒ wèishéme yào gēn tā shēng xiǎohái,
我为什么要跟他生小孩，
Why would I have a baby with him
hái yàoguò yībèizi, shì bù shì tài kěbēile ~
还要过一辈子，是不是太可悲了～
Why do I need to spend a lifetime with him? Isn’t this very sad?
Nà ~ hǎo ba, děng yīxià dehuà wǒ huì
那～ 好吧，等一下的话我会
Okay, in a little while, I will
A ~ wǒ xiǎng xiān xiūxí yīxià, zài gēn dàjiā liáo yīxià
啊～ 我想先休息一下，再跟大家聊一下
Oh! Let me rest a little bit then I will continue discussing this with you.
(Hòumiàn de) guānyú wǒ péngyǒu de yīxiē xiǎngfǎ
(后面的）关于我朋友的一些想法
Later I will share some of the views my friends have on this topic.
Guānyú wǒ zìjǐ duì shèngnǚ de yīxiē kànfǎ
关于我自己对剩女的一些看法
Also, will share some of my personal views regarding this topic.
Wǒmen xiān qù zài pá huì shān ba, wǒ yǐjīng xiūxí gòule
我们先去再爬会山吧，我已经休息够了
Let’s get back to hiking, I have rested enough!
Let’s go！
Jīntiān rén bǐjiào shǎo ó, suǒyǐ juédé, hā! Jiùshì wǒ de shān！
今天人比较少哦，所以觉得，哈！ 就是我的山！
Today, there are not so many people, so I feel this mountain belongs to me!
A ~ ń ~
唉～ 嗯～
Nà xiànzài wǒ xiǎng shuō dé shì
那现在我想说得是
Now I like to talk a little more
Guānyú shèngnǚ dehuà
关于剩女的话
about Leftover Women.
Qíshí yǒu tǐng duō péngyǒu dōu háishì gēn wǒ yīyàng de
其实有挺多朋友都还是跟我一样的
Actually, I have quite a lot friends that are in the same situation as me.
A ~ yīnggāi shuō shì shǎo shǔ de yībùfèn ba
啊～ 应该说是少数的一部分吧
I should say that my friends in this position are in the minority.
Dà bùfèn wǒ de péngyǒu dōu yǐjīng jiéhūn shēngzǐle
大部分我的朋友都已经结婚生子了
The majority of my friends are already married with children.
Ránhòu wǒ yīnggāi shì bèi shèng xiàlái de.
然后我应该是被剩下来的。
So, I am probably considered ” leftover”.
È ~ kěnéng, kěnéng xiàng wǒ zhège niánlíng de nǚ háizi
呃～ 可能，可能像我这个年龄的女孩子
Maybe, girls that are in the same age group as me
Xiàng nǐmen yīyàng, kěnéng yǒu gēn wǒ yīyàng de
像你们一样，可能有跟我一样的
probably they are also considered the same.
Yīnggāi huì tīng dào hěnduō zhèyàng dehuà
应该会听到很多这样的话
They may hear the same talk that I hear…
Ń ~ nǐ zěnme hái bù jiéhūn a?
嗯～ 你怎么还不结婚啊？
” Why don’t you get married? ” ( You are so old now!)
A! Nǐ zěnme hái méiyǒu nán péngyǒu!
啊！ 你怎么还没有男朋友！
” What! you still don’t have a boyfriend?’
A ~ yào bùyào wǒ gěi nǐ jièshào yīgè a
啊～ 要不要我给你介绍一个啊
‘ Do you want me to help you to get one?”
Āi ~ nàgè shéi shéi shuí jiā hái yǒu qián ó! Kěyǐ gěi nǐ jièshào yīxià ó ~
哎～ 那个谁谁谁家还有钱哦！ 可以给你介绍一下哦～
” That person seems very rich, I can introduce you to him.”
Fǎnzhèng huí jiā, wǒ zài jiālǐ měitiān doū tīng zhè zhǒng huà
反正回家，我在家里每天都听这种话
Whenever I return home, I hear the same thing everyday.
Ránhòu wǒ huì bǐjiào bù yuànyì dài zài jiālǐ de
然后我会比较不愿意待在家里的
Later, I feel don’t really want to stay home.
Hái yǒu yīgè yuányīn jiùshì, ń ~
还有一个原因就是，嗯～
The other reason is..
Yīgè shì, jiā lǐmiàn rén
一个是，家里面人
one reason is my family.
Bùguāng shì wǒ jiā rén, bìngqiě shì zhōuwéi de yīxiē línjū
不光是我家人，并且是周围的一些邻居
Not only my family, but all my neighbors
Tāmen doū huì wéi guòlái gēn nǐ shuō
他们都会围过来跟你说
They will all come to me and
Tǎolùn zhège huàtí. Jiéhūn bù jiéhūn, xiāngqīn
讨论这个话题。结婚不结婚，相亲
talk to me about this same topic: marriage, matchmakers ….
Shēng xiǎohái, děng děng zhèyàng de wèntí
生小孩，等等这样的问题
having a baby, and so on.
Hái yǒu yīgè jiùshì
还有一个就是
Actually
Wǒ juédé tèbié yǒu yālì
我觉得特别有压力
I feel a lot of pressure.
Tài yǒu yālì le, wǒ doū bùxiǎng huí jiā le
太有压力了，我都不想回家了
Too much pressure, I don’t even want to go back home.
Wǒ juédé
我觉得
I feel
Wǒ juédé dōu, ràng wǒ gēn wǒ de jiārén dōu (yǐ) kāishǐ yǒu jùlí gǎn le
我觉得都，让我跟我的家人都（已）开始有距离感了
I feel that al this is causing me to become more and more distant from my family
Qíshí wǒ zhēnxīn de xiǎng duì bà mā shuō yījù
其实我真心地想对爸妈说一句
I honestly want to say to parents
Rén, zǒng huì jiéhūn de
人，总会结婚的
“People will eventually get married, soon or later”.
Huòzhě shuō
或者说
Or tell them
Bùshì měi gèrén doū huì zài tèdìng de niánlíng jiéhūn, shēng xiǎohái de
不是每个人都会在特定的年龄结婚，生小孩的
Not everyone in a particular age group should get married or have children.
Nà zhèyàng zi xiàlái dehuà,
那这样子下来的话，
So if all the world accepted this thinking
Nà bùshì quán shìjiè de rén dōu zài 20 suì yào jiéhūn nà?
那不是全世界的人都在20岁要结婚呐？
Doesn’t it mean that everyone in the world must get married when they become 20 years old?
20 suì dōu yào shēng xiǎoháile ma?
20岁都要生小孩了吗？
Every 20 years old woman must have a baby?
Nà zhège shìjiè kěnéng, dōu biàn dé méiyǒu, méiyǒu fāzhǎnle
那这个世界可能，都变得没有，没有发展了
I think that kind of world perhaps could not have any good change and progress.
Érqiě wǒmen yě bù huì hěn kāixīn de
而且我们也不会很开心的
Also, we won’t be happy.
Wǒ juédé wǒ bù huì kuàilè
我觉得我不会快乐
I think at least I won’t be happy
Wǒ xiǎng duì quán tiānxià de bàba māmā shuō
我想对全天下的爸爸妈妈说
I would like to tell all the parents in the world that
Rúguǒ shuō wǒmen bùxiǎng jiéhūn
如果说我们不想结婚
If we tell you that we don’t want to get married
Wǒmen shì fā zì nèixīn de shuō bu xiǎng jiéhūn
我们是发自内心地说不想结婚
If we express a deep feeling that we just don’t want to think about marriage right now
Nà yě méiyǒu bìyào bī wǒmen
那也没有必要逼我们
Then you should not force us.
Rúguǒ nǐ,
如果你，
If you
zhēn de wǒmen, kěnéng zuìhòu bèi shuōfúle, wǒmen jiéle hūnle
真的我们，可能最后被说服了，我们结了婚了
If you were to succeed in talking us into marriage
Zuìzhōng de jiéguǒ, wǒmen háishì bù huì kāixīn de
最终的结果，我们还是不会开心的
Ultimately we would not be happy,
Bù huì xìngfú de
不会幸福的
we could not reach happiness.
Érqiě xiànzài de nǚxìng hěn dúlì
而且现在的女性很独立
Also, today’s women are very independent.
Wǒ juédé rúguǒ shì wǒ dehuà, wǒ wúfǎ xiǎngxiàng gēn yīgè
我觉得如果是我的话，我无法想象跟一个
I think if it was me, i cannot imagine
Wǒ wánquán méiyǒu gǎnjué de nánrén jiéhūn
我完全没有感觉的男人结婚
getting married to a man that i have absolutely no feelings for
Zài yīqǐ, nǎpà shì shuōhuà, wǒ doū juédé
在一起，哪怕是说话，我都觉得
Even just having a conversation with him would feel
Wǒ shòu bùliǎo! Zhīdào ma? Wǒ zhēn de juédé shòu bùliǎo
我受不了！知道吗？我真的觉得受不了
I could not stand it! You know what I mean? I really could not stand it.
Suǒyǐ, méiyǒu bìyào ba! Wǒ juédé měi gèrén yǒu měi gèrén de xuǎnzé
所以，没有必要吧！我觉得每个人有每个人的选择
So I think this type of situation is not necessary, every person needs to make their own choices.
Wǒ duì, wǒ doū hūnyīn de kànfǎ shì, yīdìng yào yǒu àiqíng
我对，我都婚姻的看法是，一定要有爱情
I think to have a good marriage you must have love.
Yīdìng yào yǒu àiqíng!
一定要有爱情！
There absolutely needs to be love!
Nǎpà àiqíng zài liǎng nián sān nián zhīhòu huì
哪怕爱情在两年三年之后会
Even if two, three years later love
biàn dé méiyǒu nàme xīnxiān
变得没有那么新鲜
becomes not as fresh and exciting as before,
Màn man àiqíng huì tuìqù biàn chéng qīnqíng
慢慢爱情会褪去变成亲情
and slowly, romantic love becomes just familial affections,
Dànshì zuì kāishǐ de yuányīn, jiéhūn de yuányīn yīdìng shì yīnwèi àiqíng
但是最开始的原因，结婚的原因一定是因为爱情
if the initial reason for the marriage was love, then this is acceptable.
Ér bùshì yīnwèi
而不是因为
Marriage should not be because
Wàimiàn rén gàosù nǐ, nǐ yīnggāi jiéhūnle
外面人告诉你，你应该结婚了
people tell you that you should get married,
Ér bùshì yīnwèi, zìjǐ juédé xūyào zhǎo yīgè rén yīkào
而不是因为，自己觉得需要找一个人依靠
or you think you need to find someone to depend on.
Zhǎo yīgè yǒu qián de rén
找一个有钱的人
Just looking for a rich man
Bùshì wǒ xiǎng yào de!
不是我想要的！
is not what I want for myself.
Kěnéng yǒu de rén juédé hěn hǎo
可能有的人觉得很好
Maybe some people think it’s good to get married.
Wǒ juédé méiyǒu wèntí a
我觉得没有问题啊
then I don’t disagree with it.
Rúguǒ nǐ zhēn de, nǐ juédé hěn xiǎng jiéhūn
如果你真的，你觉得很想结婚
If you really want to get married
Nǐ xūyào yǒuyī gèrén yīkào, wǒ juédé zhège xiǎngfǎ yě méiyǒu wèntí
你需要有一个人依靠，我觉得这个想法也没有问题
because you need someone to support you, then this thinking is also okay.
Dànshì duìyú wǒ gèrén lái shuō dehuà
但是对于我个人来说的话
But as far as I am concerned,
Wǒ shì juédé nǚxìng yīnggāi yào dúlì de
我是觉得女性应该要独立的
I think women should be independent.
Yǐjīng ~ zhōngguó yǐjīng bùshì guòqù de zhōngguóle
已经～ 中国已经不是过去的中国了
We are not living in old China.
Nǚxìng shì kěyǐ dúdāngyīmiàn de
女性是可以独当一面的
Women can now work independently.
Nǚxìng shì, tóngyàng de xiàng nánrén yīyàng gōngzuò de
女性是，同样的像男人一样工作的
Women can do the same work as men.
Wǒ bìng bù juédé wǒ bǐ nánshēng chà shénme
我并不觉得我比男生差什么
I really don’t think a man is any better than me.
Chúle ~
除了～
Except for
A ~chúle yǒuxiē lìqìhuó wǒ bùnéng gàn,
啊～除了有些力气活我不能干，
some work that requires physical strength
Wǒ méiyǒu juédé shénme wǒ bǐ tā chà de
我没有觉得什么我比他差的
I don’t think I am less capable than a man.
Wǒ yě nénggòu zhuànqián a
我也能够赚钱啊
I also can make money.
Wǒ yě nénggòu zhǎo yī fèn hěn hǎo de gōngzuò
我也能够找一份很好的工作
I can find a good job.
Wǒ de xuéxí nénglì (bìng) bìng bù bǐ tāmen chà
我的学习能力（并）并不比他们差
My ability to learn things is not less than a man
Wǒ shì zhèyàng juédé de
我是这样觉得的
That’s how I feel.
Suǒyǐ ~
所以～
So ~
Zài wǒ kàn lái dehuà
在我看来的话
As far as I am concerned
Wǒ ~ kěnéng dàjiā juédé shèngnǚ zhège cí shì
我～ 可能大家觉得剩女这个词是
Maybe people feel this term – Leftover Women
A ~ biǎnyì de
啊～ 贬义的
is derogatory
Duìyú wǒ lái shuō, biérén shuō wǒ shì shèngnǚ wǒ juédé wúsuǒwèi
对于我来说，别人说我是剩女我觉得无所谓
But as far as I concern, I don’t care if people call me a leftover woman.
Wǒ qíshí hěn kāixīn néng chéngwéi shèngnǚ
我其实很开心能成为剩女
I am actually quite happy I’m one.
Yīnwèi shèngnǚ, yòng lìngwài yī zhǒng,(lìng)
因为剩女，用另外一种，（另）
Because this term has another meaning
Yòng lìngwài yī zhǒng dìngyì lái shuō dehuà, shèngnǚ shì yī zhǒng
用另外一种定义来说的话，剩女是一种
that is ” Leftover Woman” is a kind of
Dàibiǎo xiàndài nǚxìng, bǐjiào dúlì bìngqiě yǒu xiǎngfǎ de nǚrén
代表现代女性，比较独立并且有想法的女人
woman that represents the modern woman.
Rúguǒ shuō, nǐ wánquán méiyǒu xiǎngfǎ, nǐ zhǐ xiǎng yào jiéhūn
如果说，你完全没有想法，你只想要结婚
If you’re woman without your own mind, you just want to get married
Dāngránle, shèngnǚ duì nǐ lái shuō shì yī zhǒng yālì
当然了，剩女对你来说是一种压力
Of course you will feel threaten by Leftover Women!
Kěshì duìyú wǒ lái shuō, wǒ fēicháng zìháo,(wǒ nénggòu)
可是对于我来说，我非常自豪，（我能够）
But as far as I am concern，I am very proud to be
Wǒ néng chéngwéi xiàndài de yī míng shèng (shèng) nǚ
我能成为现代的一名剩（胜）女
a modern woman because that’s what Leftover Women represent!
A ~ hái yǒu, qíshí wǒ de hěnduō péngyǒu, tāmen
啊～ 还有，其实我的很多朋友，她们
I actually have many friends
A ~wǒ shì kànguò yǒu tǐng duō gēn wǒ yīyàng de nǚxìng péngyǒu
啊～我是看过有挺多跟我一样的女性朋友
that are the same as me,
Yě shì zài zhèyàng de niánlíng bèi jiālǐ rén cuī hūn
也是在这样的年龄被家里人催婚
the same age as me, being pushed by their family to get married.
A ~qíshí zhè shì yīgè fēicháng pǔbiàn de xiànxiàng, fēicháng pǔbiàn
啊～其实这是一个非常普遍的现象，非常普遍
If fact, this is a very common situation in China.
Érqiě, hěn bēijù, wǒ juédé
而且，很悲剧，我觉得
Also, a quite tragic situation, I think.
Tèbié bēijù! Wǒ juédé nǚ hái zǐ shēnghuó zài
特别悲剧！我觉得女孩子生活在
Very tragic! I feel a woman’s life in
Zhèyàng zi de yīgè shèhuì lǐmiàn, tài kěbēile
这样子的一个社会里面，太可悲了
this type of society is really sad.
Ń ~ chàbùduō ba!
嗯～ 差不多吧！
Well, that’s pretty much it!
Ń ~ qíshí wǒ hái gèng xiǎng, shuō de shì
嗯～ 其实我还更想，说的是
I also think
Chúle shèngnǚ zhège huàtí dehuà
除了剩女这个话题的话
that besides this topic of Leftover Women,
Qíshí zài zhōngguó, xiāngqīn shì yīgè tèbié dà de huàtí
其实在中国，相亲是一个特别大的话题
arranged marriages in China is another very special topic.
Zài měi yīcì guònián de shíhòu
在每一次过年的时候
Every Chinese New Year
Wǒmen doū huì miànlín dào zhè yīgè nántí
我们都会面临到这一个难题
single women have to face this difficult topic.
Suǒyǐ, xià yīcì ba
所以，下一次吧
So, next time!
Xià yīcì wǒ huì gēn dàjiā tǎolùn yīxià
下一次我会跟大家讨论一下
Next time I will discuss this topic with you.
Gēn dàjiā jièshào yīxià wǒmen zhōngguó de xiāngqīn
跟大家介绍一下我们中国的相亲
I will introduce you to the topic of Chinese matchmakers
Bìngqiě hái yě wǒ de xiāngqīn de yīxiē jīnglì
并且还也我的相亲的一些经历
and tell you some of my personal experiences with them.
Nà rúguǒ nǐ duì, wǒ gānggāng fābiǎo de yīxiē yìjiàn
那如果你对，我刚刚发表的一些意见
So, if in regards to what I just said in this video
Yǒu shé me yìjiàn huòzhě kànfǎ dehuà
有什么意见或者看法的话
you have any opinion or suggestion
Qǐng zài xiàmiàn pínglùn
请在下面评论
please put your comments below.
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Also, please subscribe to our channel, Mandarin Corner.
A ~ jìdé yào gěi wǒ diǎn zàn ó ?
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and if you like this video, don’t forget to give us a thumbs up!
Zàijiàn!
再见！
Goodbye!Download
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